Published on 12, July, 2020
What do you think about the "How are you?" question?
I, personally, do not like this question and I have never liked it.
I do not know what to answer.
Also, a lot of the time, I think it is expected just to give a positive answer, but I often feel awful to say "Fine!" simply to be polite if I am not fine.
I hate it. My manager asks me every morning. I almost always say fine thanks. I’ll occassionally mention whatever cough or cold I have. Or a weekend activity.
Never feelings, or the internal turmoil. I’m now wondering what answer an NT gives? Fine? Do they have as much internal turmoil?
My NT partner seems to mostly ignore the question (which is apparently acceptable) and his answers to "How are you?" (and alternative versions of it) are:
"Where have you been hiding yourself, avoiding the work as usual?"
"Ah, you're just in time for a coffee."
"What's new?"
Answering a question with a question seems to be the way to go! He doesn't stress over anything really and only gets 'slightly ruffled' socially if he doesn't like a person and can't avoid them. In that situation his answer is usually "A'Right?" as he walks past them with a brief nod. I've noticed that he only makes eye-contact with people he likes. I only make eye-contact on days I like people.