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Toileting

Coco

I'm new to this. My 3.8 year old son was diagnosed with ASD in April. I'm having difficultly motivating toileting. He appears to know what to do and will pretend to sit and the toilet to do a poo, get the loo roll wipe, flush and wash his hands. He will also occasionally say "I think I need potty/toilet" and do a wee in said item. I feel like I should be moving him along and encouraging him but the last time I tried in January it really did back fire and he stopped communicating for a whole week and bearly made eye contact. It was distressing for all involved.

I wondered if anyone had any useful strategies/ experiences. I have brought it up with health and educational staff who just keep telling me not to worry because he doesn't need to be toilet trained by school age as schools do now deal with changing nappies. I was hoping to have him dry by then.

many thanks 

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  • Don't worry too much if your 3 year old son isn't trained yet.  My ASD son was well over 4, and started nursery in nappies.  He is now 9 and still in nappies at night.  Toileting any child is very stressful, but particularly children on the spectrum.

    My advice would be to be consistent at all times - if you put him in pants, keep it that way, don't be tempted to chop and change from pants to nappies just because of a few accidents.  Try a reward chart - lots of praise and a sticker when he does the right thing in the right place. 

    If it really isn't working, just leave it for a little while (say a few weeks) then try again when you think he is ready.  Try not to get too stressed about this delicate issue - you can rest assured that he won't be in nappies all his life!

    Try to be as relaxed as you can - even kids on the spectrum can pick up when you are anxious.

    Hope this helps - good luck!

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  • Don't worry too much if your 3 year old son isn't trained yet.  My ASD son was well over 4, and started nursery in nappies.  He is now 9 and still in nappies at night.  Toileting any child is very stressful, but particularly children on the spectrum.

    My advice would be to be consistent at all times - if you put him in pants, keep it that way, don't be tempted to chop and change from pants to nappies just because of a few accidents.  Try a reward chart - lots of praise and a sticker when he does the right thing in the right place. 

    If it really isn't working, just leave it for a little while (say a few weeks) then try again when you think he is ready.  Try not to get too stressed about this delicate issue - you can rest assured that he won't be in nappies all his life!

    Try to be as relaxed as you can - even kids on the spectrum can pick up when you are anxious.

    Hope this helps - good luck!

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