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had assesment - still not right

Jon

Hello.

I had an assement for Aspergers in Sheffiedl last year. The doctor concluded that I did not have 'features suggestive of Aspergers Syndrome'. The doctor must be right and I am having CBT to try and sort myself out. I get depressed, frustrated, anxious and struggle with social interaction. I have low confidence. I thought that a diagnosis Aspergers made alot of sense regarding how I am. Reading about Aspergers did help me understand myself. I am really trying with the CBT but it is hard and I still have the same problems.

I just wondered if there were anybody else who have had assesments and got the same result as me? and how are they?

JonUndecided

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  • Hi Hope,

    My partner went with me.

    I havn't ever been screened for anything else.

    The Psychiatrist went through the main areas of Aspergers. I had tried to prepare and had written down alot of notes.It is only the last couple of years I have become aware of just how different I am from other people. My life has been a constant effort to try and live up to expectations.

    I have had difficulties with social interaction and depression as far back as I remember.

    The Psychiatrist has spoken to my mother on the phone. My mother has a very different view of me than what I actually am. I was surprised at how dismissive she was. I got angry when she was filling in the assesment form as she did not understand. She may have felt she was answering truthfully but her answers were not always what I remebered of my childhood. Also questions regarding mental health in the family contradicted what she had previously said, this wasn't helpful. I havn't spoken to her since. Before that I had never swore or openly got angry with my parents. I am partly to blame as for this misunderstanding because apart from when I was about 8 (when I said I was down and cried not wanting to go to school) I have always tried to give the impression I was OK and confident. This is despite having no friends in the last years of primary school and the first years at secondary. Even when I did 'make friends' I would often sit there and have nothing to say in a group. I have always and still do spend much of my time on my own.

    The relationship with my partner has become so much better as we learn't about Aspergers. Previously she would misunderstand my motives and behaviour and we would often argue. I would often not be able to make sense of her reaction.

    I have low confidence and find the world difficult and I don't know why. Aspergers provided some answers and reassurance but now I don't know where to look and thats frustrating and leaves me feeling at a loss. CBT can make me feel that I am wrong and the majority is right that I have to change.

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  • Hi Hope,

    My partner went with me.

    I havn't ever been screened for anything else.

    The Psychiatrist went through the main areas of Aspergers. I had tried to prepare and had written down alot of notes.It is only the last couple of years I have become aware of just how different I am from other people. My life has been a constant effort to try and live up to expectations.

    I have had difficulties with social interaction and depression as far back as I remember.

    The Psychiatrist has spoken to my mother on the phone. My mother has a very different view of me than what I actually am. I was surprised at how dismissive she was. I got angry when she was filling in the assesment form as she did not understand. She may have felt she was answering truthfully but her answers were not always what I remebered of my childhood. Also questions regarding mental health in the family contradicted what she had previously said, this wasn't helpful. I havn't spoken to her since. Before that I had never swore or openly got angry with my parents. I am partly to blame as for this misunderstanding because apart from when I was about 8 (when I said I was down and cried not wanting to go to school) I have always tried to give the impression I was OK and confident. This is despite having no friends in the last years of primary school and the first years at secondary. Even when I did 'make friends' I would often sit there and have nothing to say in a group. I have always and still do spend much of my time on my own.

    The relationship with my partner has become so much better as we learn't about Aspergers. Previously she would misunderstand my motives and behaviour and we would often argue. I would often not be able to make sense of her reaction.

    I have low confidence and find the world difficult and I don't know why. Aspergers provided some answers and reassurance but now I don't know where to look and thats frustrating and leaves me feeling at a loss. CBT can make me feel that I am wrong and the majority is right that I have to change.

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