As with all our stories its difficult to cut it short when trying to give as clear a picture as possible....so I will apologise in advance.
I have recently given up work because I have been called by the school on a weekly basis to collect my son / meetings - he wont allow any communication at the door.
He is 8, moved to junior school (same children, same site, but are very seperate schools. always had up and downs - except for last year, we presumed he had outgrown it. when he was 4nursery suggested camhs . If im totally honest I blamed myself for his behaviour. It was also towards the end of the school term so we thought we would see how he went in infants. He did have problems and tantrums, I was called to the school several times and asked to collect him on a few occasions but his behaviour always seemed to settle down once he had had a chance to settle in.
Last year Yr2 I wasnt called in or spoken to at all, and they were very impressed at how he turned things around.
He has always been very chatty, quite loud but also very clever with his reading, spelling, recalling information and vocabulary-not a keen writer and handwriting doesnt seem to come very naturally to him. He was on school council, in the choir and in guitar club - very involved.
This year however,......on the first occasion I can recall the teacher tried to communicate an incident at home time to me - he ran around the playground, screaming, threw his school bags at me, made a gun with his fingers and pretended to shoot us and threw grass at us - he was suspended. The incident she was trying to tell me about was minor in comparrison. has been suspended for a further incident also.
His self esteem and self control has deteriorated since. He is obsessed with one friend, who he physically attacked yesterday as he felt she was spoiling his game (I think it was more the case she didnt want to play to his rules).
He is having frequent outbursts in school where i can only describe him as unrecognisable, eyes glazed, there is no communicating with him, he is in a rage - I might add here iv only witnessed this twice both times at school. But they are reporting other cases of this to me as well as regressive behaviours, (that i do see at home) growling, hissing, going under the table, anxiety and the aboved mentioned outbursts resulting that they have restrained him several times this year. I dont agree with this but in all honesty am failing to propose an alternative when I couldnt even calm him down on the occassion I witnessed it. The only thing that seems to work is humour/distraction but this is only possible when he is subsiding and able to focus / listen. He can behave like this at home but more hyper/disrespectful than angry.
I am told he is restrained because he is a danger to the other children/himself....throwing chairs over, pushing tables up, throwing pen pots and he pushed the big A frame board over last week. The class have been removed on several occassions because of his actions.
He is under CAMHS-referred to peads but wont see anyone till august. Had Ed.Physch observation last week (all of which iv had to push and wait in turn for)
His teacher has told me in all her experience as a teacher she has no idea how to approach his behaviour. Iv been given little support or direction, I dont know what to do to help him, I've spoken to ACE and had a parent advisor come out to me but she said as his problems are school based theres little she can do.
School and SENCO are convinced he's on the asd spectrum somewhere and warrant the investigations.
Other behaviours I will quickly list:growling, hissing, regressive body langueage/speech/vocab, withdrawing, aggression, struggles to get to sleep, poor eye coordination, can be highly anxious: worried about me dying, worries about bad things happening: trees blowing over, train crashing,bus crashing, scared (understatement) of the wind, thunder, fireworks, unexpected noise, needs definates: you cant say you might do this or that as he takes it as a promise, can flip out over things id call minor: if i get the wrong sweet/something is sold out etc.....no rationalising. He reacts to loud noises like the hand dryers especially those new ones that really blast your hands!! I dont put the stereo on because it seems to trigger him into hyperactivity.
Iv probably written too much...sorry, i just dont know where else to turn for advice.
