Parent - Advice for my adult son

Dear All,

Please forgive me if i am not in the right section. I have a twenty year old son who i thought at the time was experiencing mental health issues but our Doctor is sure my son has Aspergers. I first thought she was not correct but after reading the website and doing my own research i think she could be onto something. He will be assessed next week.

Back ground info -

My son has always been a loner,always happy to be on his own. When he was a toddler he would get very angry if another child tried to play with. My son does not like being touched by anyone. He gets very anxious if he has to go out socially and takes medication prescribed by the doctor to help but 9/10 he cancels. He spends alot of time in his room, when he is on his own he is happy. He is very intelligent he went to a grammar school and came out of school with 14 GCSE'S and 5 A levels all at good grades. He is training to be a pharmacist and this he loves. He reads books on this and goes on websites as a hobbie. He gets very angry if he is touched or you disturb him. He does have outbursts of anger which the doctor is concerned about. As a child he had speech therapy but all other milestones he did before he should. He could read and write before he went to school.

Can any advice if they are going through the same?

Many Thanks in advance.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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  • Dear Dazzle,

    Even if your son has AS, it's not the end of the world. I'm awaiting diagnosis, but I've recognised all the signs in myself. The main thing is - is your son managing to cope on a day-to-day basis? If it's just a problem of not being touched or disturbed, then you can work around this and try and find out what situations to avoid (as a start). People with AS can become successful and can live happily. Many of us are still finding out how to make the adjustments needed, but there is help out there. 

    Don't do what a relative of mine did. She refuses to accept that I might have AS, and has suggested everything from 'Elocution lessosn - to teach you how to have normal conversations, like normal people' and 'You're just too tense! You need to do some yoga classes!" Don't ignore what doctors tell you, and if your son needs help, don't be afraid to ask for it. I don't want to have to attend yoga and elocution lessons, it'd be like sticking a bandage on a chest infection. As we know, chest infections clear up when you're prescribed the correct antibiotics...so don't be afraid to ask for the correct treatment to help your son.

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  • Dear Dazzle,

    Even if your son has AS, it's not the end of the world. I'm awaiting diagnosis, but I've recognised all the signs in myself. The main thing is - is your son managing to cope on a day-to-day basis? If it's just a problem of not being touched or disturbed, then you can work around this and try and find out what situations to avoid (as a start). People with AS can become successful and can live happily. Many of us are still finding out how to make the adjustments needed, but there is help out there. 

    Don't do what a relative of mine did. She refuses to accept that I might have AS, and has suggested everything from 'Elocution lessosn - to teach you how to have normal conversations, like normal people' and 'You're just too tense! You need to do some yoga classes!" Don't ignore what doctors tell you, and if your son needs help, don't be afraid to ask for it. I don't want to have to attend yoga and elocution lessons, it'd be like sticking a bandage on a chest infection. As we know, chest infections clear up when you're prescribed the correct antibiotics...so don't be afraid to ask for the correct treatment to help your son.

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