Not sure what to do..

I don't really know where to start, Perhaps if we had all day !

I will go through the basics and see if this has happened to anyone else, I have a son who is 8 years old with ASD, Through fault of the school and our decision we took him out of school 2 years ago.

The classes were to big and the noise , The school kept swopping helpers, carers etc.

I have two other children and have found it very difficult to home teach him, He gets bored after 10 mins and has had enough, The education board came last year and stated that my son has the academic age of a 5 year old. They all so basically stated they did not see it fit to teach him at home.

I know my son and school is not for him even though, I know he should have friends his own age.

The problem now is  1. He will not learn at home, Not as much as he should 2. He has started to get worse behaviour wise with his rituals, It takes approx 30 minutes to get him out of bed with all the rituals, Twice I have refused to do them and he sat at the top of the stairs both times for 10 hours. On his own with out a drink or food, Until I carried him down stairs.

He will not go outside and walk, and he will not wear shoes or clothes, Only pink pj's and pink slippers.

He complains that his feet hurt, But there is nothing wrong with him. 3. His sleeping is dreadful, He goes 2 weeks in a routine and then he will be off for two weeks being awake 17-20 hours per day. He is only little so I have to stop up with him. Half the time I am shattered like typing this at 4.53am. been up all night.

He won't sleep in his own bed and will only sleep with me. WE have no help from any one health wise or other wise, We have been left to ourselves for the last two years, No one is intrested.

He did have a statement at school, But no more. The doctor the last time I saw her suggested putting him on a sleeping medication, which I am not keen on, That is the only advice we have been given.

There is a special school but we have been told there is no help with transport and with his sleeping being erratic, He would be off school more than he is actually in.

I hardly go out the house only if my husband babysits for a while, We live away from the family.

It is disrupting all our lives as a family, We actually went to a tribuneral to get the DLA and Careers allowence and were told that we could get no help as our son could walk, But refused so that was the end of it.

I was thinking about seeing my doctor again and explaining everything, But the help she put us in touch with last time was a complete waste of time. I know it sounds stupid but I don't want to tell the doctor, I am finding it hard to cope. I just have this vision of Social Services getting involved and me loosing my beautiful loved to bits son.

Any Idea's ?

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  • hello, i have just read your post, and understand your frustration, i have been fighting with schools for 7 years that my son was not just " a malicious child" as his teacher once told me. We moved to a new area and a year ago his new school suspected Autism this was a shock i suspected ADHD but never suspected Autism at all. we to have had a fight on our hands with DLA as he has not been formerly diagnosed with Autism although we do have a letter from the educational psychologist to say she suspects Aspergers.

    With regards to your dilema social services are there to help and they may be able to pay for your sons transport if you ask them for help as you are not getting it elsewhere. They can also open alot of doors for you with pychologist etc etc. Explain to them your worries about taking your son etc and you will see they are not there for that unless neglect ect but that is definately not the case for you , you are doing all you can for your son and that shows, they may also help you with respite so you and your family can rest and recharge your batteries.

    i joined my local careres centre whilst i await a full diagnosis and this has helped me alot as they have put me in touch with other parents etc and other help thats out there in my local area

     i hope this helps x

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  • hello, i have just read your post, and understand your frustration, i have been fighting with schools for 7 years that my son was not just " a malicious child" as his teacher once told me. We moved to a new area and a year ago his new school suspected Autism this was a shock i suspected ADHD but never suspected Autism at all. we to have had a fight on our hands with DLA as he has not been formerly diagnosed with Autism although we do have a letter from the educational psychologist to say she suspects Aspergers.

    With regards to your dilema social services are there to help and they may be able to pay for your sons transport if you ask them for help as you are not getting it elsewhere. They can also open alot of doors for you with pychologist etc etc. Explain to them your worries about taking your son etc and you will see they are not there for that unless neglect ect but that is definately not the case for you , you are doing all you can for your son and that shows, they may also help you with respite so you and your family can rest and recharge your batteries.

    i joined my local careres centre whilst i await a full diagnosis and this has helped me alot as they have put me in touch with other parents etc and other help thats out there in my local area

     i hope this helps x

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