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Not just children suffer

AnneMargaret

I understand i may offend a few people with what i say but i assure you it is not intended. I just want to say it is not only children that have Autism. If they are diagnosed as a child then they appear to have much more help and support. EG specialist schools. Some people are not diagnosed until they are way into their adult life. They have had to struggle with their feelings all their life with no one knowing what's wrong and blaming them for the way they act. I wish there was more support and awareness for adults with problems too.

Sorry if i upset anyone.

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  • I can relate. Support for children is vital but equally so, if not more so, is support for adults, particularly those who have gone through childhood undiagnosed. We are often deeply scarred with a thousand wounds caused by ridicule, criticism and endless put-downs. We will cope differently, the worst result being depression, but most of us will have low-self-esteem and frustration bubbling just below the surface. Appearances can be deceptive: we can look like we are coping but the smallest put-down or mistake can turn us into nervous wrecks as repressed emotions rear their ugly heads.  We are often at our most vulnerable as adults. The structure of school is replaced by too much responsibility all at once without any order, instead just endless chaos and uncertainty. I am lucky to finally have lots of support, which has helped tremendously, but I still feel a great void in my life. I would love to go on holiday but the anxiety stops me. I would love to have a paid job but the anxiety puts obstacles in my way. I would love to have a partner, to get out more...but the anxiety stops me. I do sometimes feel quite sad about this or feel weak: why can't I stop my anxiety? Just one day without it would be amazing. If only...

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  • I can relate. Support for children is vital but equally so, if not more so, is support for adults, particularly those who have gone through childhood undiagnosed. We are often deeply scarred with a thousand wounds caused by ridicule, criticism and endless put-downs. We will cope differently, the worst result being depression, but most of us will have low-self-esteem and frustration bubbling just below the surface. Appearances can be deceptive: we can look like we are coping but the smallest put-down or mistake can turn us into nervous wrecks as repressed emotions rear their ugly heads.  We are often at our most vulnerable as adults. The structure of school is replaced by too much responsibility all at once without any order, instead just endless chaos and uncertainty. I am lucky to finally have lots of support, which has helped tremendously, but I still feel a great void in my life. I would love to go on holiday but the anxiety stops me. I would love to have a paid job but the anxiety puts obstacles in my way. I would love to have a partner, to get out more...but the anxiety stops me. I do sometimes feel quite sad about this or feel weak: why can't I stop my anxiety? Just one day without it would be amazing. If only...

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