Autism and ADHD

Hello Chuckalicious. I have dyspraxia (dcd), adhd and Aspergers. All diagnosed in my 50's. I agree with you wholeheartedly. Some of the characteristics overlap, seem contradictory. Sometimes one applies the next the opposite. I think I should type up lists for each diagnosis so that I can compare them as it is confusing. On one of the threads I posted a ven diagram showing the overlap of Neurodiversity. At one time it was said that you couldn't have both autism/asd and adhd but this has been found not to be the case. I know what you mean about the mistakes too which in my case became worse after menopause when hormones change. My short term memory got worse so that there are jobs I have enjoyed in the past that I could no longer do. It is bewildering. I hope Ellie's advice was able to help you on the practical side but I just wanted to encourage you to look into the dual aspect of asd/adhd more because it sounds very like it

This is all interesting reading, Misfit, can you go back to the place where they diagnosed the ADHD with your ASD diagnosis and ask for some help, or go to your GP and ask to be referred back there?  You really sound like you need help making sense of your alphabet soup to enable real changes to make your life more settled and fulfilling.

I've been looking into ADHD, or trying to, it seems a lot like trying to nail jelly to a wall.  Depending on how it is written about it describes me but then I read something else and it doesn't.  I also think my head is very resistant to the idea of there being something else on top of ASD, it's hard enough to come to terms with that, like you said some of the 'symptoms' of the two conditions are so contradictory that how the hell do you pick the bones out of it all?

Part of me wants to raise the question and like you and chuckalicious, get to the bottom of it all but the other part wants to stick my head firmly in the sand and shout 'NO, NO MORE!' 

Spotty was all that too much? Sorry . Also I don't know why it's full of emoticons .. unintentional. 

Sleep tight all. x

You guys are so sweet x

Yeah eyeore piglet and Winnie the Pooh 

just listening to this 

http://www.erictivers.com/176

Eeee-yoooore. You've to love donkey noises in the mix. x

And to you  

Ok . enough reflection for me today. Take care both of you and goodnight 

Yes to all of that Spotty. It is disheartening isn't it. I Only managed a couple of years teaching.. I keep thinking of all the different professional salaries that have gone by the wayside during my lurch from job to job. The lady that helped me recently was helping me with my paperwork which is why it had piled up again. There is inspiration to be had from the women who have found ways forward and offering their experience and advice. Don't think of it as a bandwagon. Just think of it as further research and self exploration. If it's there you can't wish it away ... plus if you ignore it you can't do anything about it at least you can listen/read pick up ideas. Mostly tho try to be kind to yourself which I know is a lot easier said than done it's like finding out about Aspergers, there is a reason for the chaos and messiness and that in itself helps a bit. 

Take care of yourself Spotty x

Monkeys, tortoises, elephants etc...what a crazy farm we live in xx

Giving a monkeys is giving more than enough, thank you Ellie, look after yourself. x

Yes......you seem quite lost my lovely, can we help? X missed you today btw 

I like pruning too but detest the clearing up! And yes wisteria is much more civilized than ivy.

I'm really wary of climbing on a band wagon, but the educational decline, unemployability, monetery incompetence  (despite NVQ level 3 in accounting) chaotic nature, messiness that has existed all my life...

Expect wisteria slightly less sticky and full of itchy things than ivy but .. I quite like pruning. I'm not quite so keen chopping it all up and tidying up afterwards!plus pruning is quite good when mulling over things.. lots of chopping! It has been a dull overcast day here today. I'm looking forward to some more sunshine. 

It is all rather overwhelming, yes and I'm sorry you're going through the mill just now. The different aspects of the whole ND thing seem never ending and in the end you feel like you've got everything there is.. the more you read the more you fit different conditions.. I stopped looking in the end as it all got too much. I thought I'd ticked more than enough boxes! At least I know why I find it hard to focus to follow the strategies I'm supposed to be implementing! So in some respects it's helpful to know. I have been trying to clear my dining table which was overflowing with "stuff" and got out of hand so I have made some improvement today. 

Expect wisteria slightly less sticky and full of itchy things than ivy but .. I quite like pruning. I'm not quite so keen chopping it all up and tidying up afterwards!plus pruning is quite good when mulling over things.. lots of chopping! It has been a dull overcast day here today. I'm looking forward to some more sunshine. 

It is all rather overwhelming, yes and I'm sorry you're going through the mill just now. The different aspects of the whole ND thing seem never ending and in the end you feel like you've got everything there is.. the more you read the more you fit different conditions.. I stopped looking in the end as it all got too much. I thought I'd ticked more than enough boxes! At least I know why I find it hard to focus to follow the strategies I'm supposed to be implementing! So in some respects it's helpful to know. I have been trying to clear my dining table which was overflowing with "stuff" and got out of hand so I have made some improvement today. 

Sleep tight all. x

You guys are so sweet x

Yeah eyeore piglet and Winnie the Pooh 

just listening to this 

http://www.erictivers.com/176

Eeee-yoooore. You've to love donkey noises in the mix. x

And to you  

Ok . enough reflection for me today. Take care both of you and goodnight 

Yes to all of that Spotty. It is disheartening isn't it. I Only managed a couple of years teaching.. I keep thinking of all the different professional salaries that have gone by the wayside during my lurch from job to job. The lady that helped me recently was helping me with my paperwork which is why it had piled up again. There is inspiration to be had from the women who have found ways forward and offering their experience and advice. Don't think of it as a bandwagon. Just think of it as further research and self exploration. If it's there you can't wish it away ... plus if you ignore it you can't do anything about it at least you can listen/read pick up ideas. Mostly tho try to be kind to yourself which I know is a lot easier said than done it's like finding out about Aspergers, there is a reason for the chaos and messiness and that in itself helps a bit. 

Take care of yourself Spotty x

Monkeys, tortoises, elephants etc...what a crazy farm we live in xx

Giving a monkeys is giving more than enough, thank you Ellie, look after yourself. x

Yes......you seem quite lost my lovely, can we help? X missed you today btw 

I like pruning too but detest the clearing up! And yes wisteria is much more civilized than ivy.

I'm really wary of climbing on a band wagon, but the educational decline, unemployability, monetery incompetence  (despite NVQ level 3 in accounting) chaotic nature, messiness that has existed all my life...