20170730 - ASD women

Hi Spotty..

I go through bouts of communication black outs....sometimes time is needed to straighten the head and dissect what people want/expect of you...

as Missfit said, there is a lot of over analysis going on.,,

if i say this, what will be the response....what sort of response can I cope and manage? ..... and then you think of every single connotation, get worn out, then quit.......

Hello. 

I wasn't diagnosed until I was 32 (a couple of years ago) after many years of wrong mental health diagnoses. I was surprised at first but quickly very relieved that there was a name for my traits and, what's more, that I wasn't the only one. Everything just felt like it suddenly fitted. 

Personally, I am happier and more settled knowing how to deal with myself now since the diagnosis. Life is getting easier...

I also feel I have some protection in terms of legal rights e.g. Accessing (the very, very limited in my area) support and protection in jobs (should I get well enough to work) etc. 

But this is just my experience. 

Good luck. 

Jam. 

Thank you. 

I am being brave and replying! Lol. 

I am ok, thank you. Today is a quite good day - garden time, which meant lots of digging in mud, now it's dinner time, which means wine and cat cuddles whilst my partner cooks. 

Hope your day is suitably ok too. 

Jam. 

Hi @Jam_1 and @isthisreal .  One thing that I remember hearing as a younger person (49 now) is that you don't really feel any different inside as you get older. It maybe impossible to believe when you are young, but it is true. 

I'm still wading around in the first thread, it is a goldmine, I know it's a bit confusing but it can be followed and I think that's what makes it interesting, it's had an awful lot of views so the need is clearly there and I'm glad it's all public.

I have the same problem I think as Jam with communications at the moment, I'm not even answering text messages from family, I don't entirely understand what is going on, I don't mean to ignore them, I want to answer them but if I don't do it straight away I can't seem to do it at all and then I bury myself in guilt and uselessness.  How ridiculous is this life?

I like art (I am allegedly an artist) I used to like gardening until I started a few gardening jobs several years ago which has taken the pleasure away somewhat.  I live in the countryside, have a spotty dog, a studio at the end of the garden and I'm learning to play the bass guitar.  I also have a long suffering partner who wasn't as shocked as me at the realisation of autism but whether our somewhat odd relationship will survive this, who knows... If it doesn't I could effectively be homeless.

I think formal diagnosis is desirable for future protection among other things.  none of us know what the future holds, when we will be at the mercy of state benefits, healthcare or care in old age and without a medical diagnosis our behaviours and distresses could be completely misinterpreted and cause more suffering.  Just my thoughts

Check out Jam_1, she is of the less wrinkly variety!  she is early thirties...don't let age be a barrier...why add another hurdle...

we are not old, just matured..like a cheese ....full of flavour!!

Hi Jam

don't worry, you'll fit right in...I think all of us are aware of the ASD traits to know when things become challenging..

well done for coming out if the woodwork and welcome to this thread.

how are you??

Hello.

I am a long time lurker, occasional poster but I've been kind of following the women with asd thread so thought I'd finally say hi: *waves*.

I am a nearly mid 30s, only diagnosed in last few years Aspie. Previously thought to be a BPD-er.

I like History, art, running, cycling, gardening and being outside.

I am also terrible with people and actually committing to conversation, even just replying so apologies in advance.

Haha I shall count you as one of the twenties then :)

Welcome is this real...

this is a continuation of the Help! are there any women in the community with ASD, thread...

there are quite of few lovely ladies in this group.....stick around...

i am 42 but happy to pretend I am in my twenties if that helps :p

Hello everyone, I'm really glad I found this thread! Im a self diagnosed aspie girl wondering whether to get a formal diagnosis... Anyone on here in their twenties?

I'm at the end of Sunday.

One of the features of DCD that is like ASD is the sensory issues and my pushing myself over the last month is now coming back to haunt me as I've got tinitus and tactile sensitivity driving me slightly mad. Had to explain to SD20 that my need was for others to be aware of my needs for predictable noise and touch. She recognised her undermedicated was not helping so she took 10mg of ritalin at the start of the evening. Much more compatable with me in overload if she's less impulsive.

Next week is busy but not chaotic then I get a week off after my birthday!

I'm back in to the gym tomorrow morning. I never enjoy it but it helps with the sensory issues and muscular pain that DCD tension brings.