Help! Are there any women in this Community with ASD

I'm going for the top 'reply' button this time in the hope that this interjection won't disappear in the thread like the last one did.  I have a new book and I think it is important people!

AUTISM AND ASPERGER SYNDROME IN ADULTS by Dr Luke Beardon.  I bought it because it was published this year, so many of the books seem to be outdated to me, this seemed to have a fresh perspective, it arrived today and I've read nearly a third, it's quietly brilliant I think.

If we could all read it and encourage everyone else to read it we might start a revolution, it's really genderless too, in a good way.  I may just be over excited by this thread being such a roaring success, but I really think the ideas in this book could help us all so much.

Isn't it strange that a thread full of pain, confusion and despair can be generating so much optimism, thank you for being brave enough to start it Elephant, even if it has got quite hard to follow!  If all my emotions and reactions weren't so suppressed I might be skipping round the garden right now. 

I'm so sorry for those of you with resistant husbands or partners, I hope you make progress and I think the book could help them too, maybe there's an audio version, or you could read it to him?  He's going to have to engage with the idea if you are going to move forward together, it isn't something that will go away and we have all hit the wall for a reason. We can't keep up the pretence any more, either we find new paths forward or we will be broken people which will serve no one and be a waste of what are obviously some splendid people here, different but splendid.

Spotty!!  Wondered where you disappeared to....the book sounds good (pay day Monday!.....it's now on the list!).

it's has been great to have so many join in with this thread...so many hidden women coming out of the woodwork..or book!

try and skip Spotty....or what ever feels right for a tortoise!  Did you see the comments above about addressing the emotional side of things....how do you interpret that....or Dr Beardon...?

glad you're back!

Hi Spotty,

i have just found your buried post and glad I did....ASD really is a cruel thing....the curve ball of aiming for perfection, acceptance and belonging...but terrified of everything, scared of getting it wrong...,and not being able to be understood....

loneliness and self inflicted isolation and withdrawal from the world seem common themes.  All of this reading we're doing....what are we trying to find in those pages...,validation, the rule book, reassurance that things will get better....

is it us that should be reading or just the non-ASD community?..

Hi Spotty,

i have just found your buried post and glad I did....ASD really is a cruel thing....the curve ball of aiming for perfection, acceptance and belonging...but terrified of everything, scared of getting it wrong...,and not being able to be understood....

loneliness and self inflicted isolation and withdrawal from the world seem common themes.  All of this reading we're doing....what are we trying to find in those pages...,validation, the rule book, reassurance that things will get better....

is it us that should be reading or just the non-ASD community?..