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Autism and "Emotional Intelligence" in the Workplace... thoughts?

Aspidancer1986

I have a good role, which I enjoy, and find challenging, which again I enjoy. However, my biggest downfall is my ability to control my emotions in certain situations. 

For example, I take things literally, too personally, or "over react" in situations which others may find trivial. My only social relationships (or friendships) are the people who I work with so if I ever vent, it's with them, which unfortunately is seen as bringing my colleagues into matters which shouldn't concern them. 

My main issue which people tend to notice, is that when my emotions become confused or overwhelmed, or I don't know how to express myself, I cry. I've just had a meeting regarding something I was frustrated about as I left the office last night, and it was mentioned that in the past 4-5 months I've ended up crying, and I need to learn to stop taking things so personally etc etc etc.. which just made me MORE frustrated so I cried more!

It's in my diagnosis report that I have difficulties expressing emotions in the correct way. It's in my Occupational Health report I believe. But I feel as though my emotional state is forever going to be the deciding point of what people think of me - and that's getting me down. 

Does anyone else feel this way or experienced anything similar? More to the point does anyone have any advice on controlling emotions when you have a condition which already makes it ridiculously difficult to do so?

People keep telling me I need help - but I've done the counselling, CBT, hypnotherapy, antidepressants, etc etc etc. I've always tried to help myself too but I just don't know what other help I can get. 

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  • I don't know if this relates to emotional intelligence or not , but back c.1987 when I started work, tho more of a YTS thing, I had one adult colleague who said ''Don't take me so seriously'' I was never sure if he was being serious or not. It was December 23rd 1988 and where I worked on the railway it was close to an  airport where troops would fly in and out from to/from Germany. A flight had landed at the airport, with soldiers home for Christmas, I know that some of them invited me to the buffet for a drink, I said ''Thanks but I mustn't, this colleague Steve said  ''Go and have a dribk with thw squaddies'' , I was ''Are you sure'' So eventually I did, tho they had ordered G&Ts and  I mever had gin before, tho had a sip and I didn't like it, had another after some '' You're not really drinking''(every time I've tried gin since (twice), I think with orange  , twice it's made me throw up) , I know the station supoervisor came along some 20 mins or so later (might have been sooner) , I don't know for sure, but I seemed to see this Steve head to his office, I don't know if he ''grassed'' me up or someone in the buffet did or the supervisor just happened to notice me. Tho when he came into the buffet I was ''OH ***'', tho thankfully he got me out of that situation, tho I did wish the ground would swallow me up , I think some 15 mins or so later the YTS boss came past the buffet, tho I don't think he ever found out. Anyway 1989 I got a job on the railway properly and this Steve became one of the Chargemen where I worked, much of the time I never knew how to take him. Tho I did part ways as I later got another job on the railway , once I was 18 and vacancies turned up.

    I'm thinking there's some people I don'tor didn't  know how to fathom, my mum being one of them, and the same with various immediate managers since sometimes I'm not sure what to make of them. I've tried not to appear upset or confused around them. I don;t know why sometimes I felt so ''easily led'', tho it's only recently I've had Aspergers confirmed.              

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  • I don't know if this relates to emotional intelligence or not , but back c.1987 when I started work, tho more of a YTS thing, I had one adult colleague who said ''Don't take me so seriously'' I was never sure if he was being serious or not. It was December 23rd 1988 and where I worked on the railway it was close to an  airport where troops would fly in and out from to/from Germany. A flight had landed at the airport, with soldiers home for Christmas, I know that some of them invited me to the buffet for a drink, I said ''Thanks but I mustn't, this colleague Steve said  ''Go and have a dribk with thw squaddies'' , I was ''Are you sure'' So eventually I did, tho they had ordered G&Ts and  I mever had gin before, tho had a sip and I didn't like it, had another after some '' You're not really drinking''(every time I've tried gin since (twice), I think with orange  , twice it's made me throw up) , I know the station supoervisor came along some 20 mins or so later (might have been sooner) , I don't know for sure, but I seemed to see this Steve head to his office, I don't know if he ''grassed'' me up or someone in the buffet did or the supervisor just happened to notice me. Tho when he came into the buffet I was ''OH ***'', tho thankfully he got me out of that situation, tho I did wish the ground would swallow me up , I think some 15 mins or so later the YTS boss came past the buffet, tho I don't think he ever found out. Anyway 1989 I got a job on the railway properly and this Steve became one of the Chargemen where I worked, much of the time I never knew how to take him. Tho I did part ways as I later got another job on the railway , once I was 18 and vacancies turned up.

    I'm thinking there's some people I don'tor didn't  know how to fathom, my mum being one of them, and the same with various immediate managers since sometimes I'm not sure what to make of them. I've tried not to appear upset or confused around them. I don;t know why sometimes I felt so ''easily led'', tho it's only recently I've had Aspergers confirmed.              

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