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Son has been dismissed - do we have any case?

ftm42

I'm Mum to a 19 year old, who we know has issues. He has never had a 'formal diagnosis' but has had interventions from various school support and treated as if he had aspergers whilst in school. We had asked for support in college but never got it and he struggled through.

He started a f-t apprenticeship but has recently been dismissed [after only 6 weeks] as he just couldn't get himself in for their start time, so ended up very behind on hours. Despite their best endeavours, he couldn't manage to get in on time and has now been fired. To be fair, he did not disclose that he had Aspergers as we naievly believed he was OK and had 'grown out of it' so didn't advise him to disclose. He doesn't seem to fully comprehend what has happened.

Without going into the legalities, has anyone experienced this and how do we manage it going forward? We will be pursuing a formal diagnosis as we think it could help him but he really wants his job back as he enjoyed it and was perfectly capable of doing the job.

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  • Thanks for those comments - esp ClaireHig - you have been through a lot.

    My overall feeling is that we're relying on them giving him a second chance but to be fair to them, as employers they didn't know he might have problems so could not have been expected to accomodate him. He had been given numerous chances to change and if he had shared his problems with us [esp me, as I work for the same company] we might have been able to step in much earlier and prevent it. Great with 20/20 hindsight as always. We will be making an appoitntment to see the GP tomorrow so hopefully they will set things in train for us to pursue a diagnosis for future employers.

    It's also partly us denying that there was still a problem and it's been a real wake-up call for us as parents and for him, realising he really might be autistic.

    He is realistic and actually doesn't seem to understand why we are concerned about getting him a diagnosis. His response when we asked if he wanted to go for a diagnosis was along the lines of "If I'm autistic, I'm autistic and a diagnosis will help me from now on, so why not!". Maybe he's more realistic than we gave him credit for!

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  • Thanks for those comments - esp ClaireHig - you have been through a lot.

    My overall feeling is that we're relying on them giving him a second chance but to be fair to them, as employers they didn't know he might have problems so could not have been expected to accomodate him. He had been given numerous chances to change and if he had shared his problems with us [esp me, as I work for the same company] we might have been able to step in much earlier and prevent it. Great with 20/20 hindsight as always. We will be making an appoitntment to see the GP tomorrow so hopefully they will set things in train for us to pursue a diagnosis for future employers.

    It's also partly us denying that there was still a problem and it's been a real wake-up call for us as parents and for him, realising he really might be autistic.

    He is realistic and actually doesn't seem to understand why we are concerned about getting him a diagnosis. His response when we asked if he wanted to go for a diagnosis was along the lines of "If I'm autistic, I'm autistic and a diagnosis will help me from now on, so why not!". Maybe he's more realistic than we gave him credit for!

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