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Son has been dismissed - do we have any case?

ftm42

I'm Mum to a 19 year old, who we know has issues. He has never had a 'formal diagnosis' but has had interventions from various school support and treated as if he had aspergers whilst in school. We had asked for support in college but never got it and he struggled through.

He started a f-t apprenticeship but has recently been dismissed [after only 6 weeks] as he just couldn't get himself in for their start time, so ended up very behind on hours. Despite their best endeavours, he couldn't manage to get in on time and has now been fired. To be fair, he did not disclose that he had Aspergers as we naievly believed he was OK and had 'grown out of it' so didn't advise him to disclose. He doesn't seem to fully comprehend what has happened.

Without going into the legalities, has anyone experienced this and how do we manage it going forward? We will be pursuing a formal diagnosis as we think it could help him but he really wants his job back as he enjoyed it and was perfectly capable of doing the job.

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  • You could try the local Citizens Advice Bureu to you and find out if there is anything that can be done.  From what you are saying, it seems like they were trying to help him with the start time.  But he couldn't do it. 

    Give them a ring or find out where they are and tomorrow contact them. You may not get a direct answer to the solution tomorrow becasue CAB's are volunteer manned and it depends on how they operate things. (I get frustrated with mine because the receptionist doesnt understand the full question and was given a leaflet to ring the number or go on line. Which neither helped my question at that time) but they can be very helpful.

    Second step. Make an appointment with the GP and start the process to getting a formal diagnosis. Now he an employable age, if he has a formal diagnosis various doors can open for him. He then can get Personal Independence Payments and if he gets High Rate Component other doors open for him on that.

    There is real help out there and some experiences are good and some have bad experiences but it is out there.  But I would strongly recommend obtaining a formal diagnosis. It takes time but worth it in the end.

    Has he an employment support coach?  You can go with him. That was my question to CAB and they couldn't help but other people have including my work coach. He don't have to see them alone and even a parent could go with him and work out the next step and whether he has a case. Actually I find my work coach very good and will try to not just sign post me to CAB but deal with the questions herself.

    Good luck

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  • You could try the local Citizens Advice Bureu to you and find out if there is anything that can be done.  From what you are saying, it seems like they were trying to help him with the start time.  But he couldn't do it. 

    Give them a ring or find out where they are and tomorrow contact them. You may not get a direct answer to the solution tomorrow becasue CAB's are volunteer manned and it depends on how they operate things. (I get frustrated with mine because the receptionist doesnt understand the full question and was given a leaflet to ring the number or go on line. Which neither helped my question at that time) but they can be very helpful.

    Second step. Make an appointment with the GP and start the process to getting a formal diagnosis. Now he an employable age, if he has a formal diagnosis various doors can open for him. He then can get Personal Independence Payments and if he gets High Rate Component other doors open for him on that.

    There is real help out there and some experiences are good and some have bad experiences but it is out there.  But I would strongly recommend obtaining a formal diagnosis. It takes time but worth it in the end.

    Has he an employment support coach?  You can go with him. That was my question to CAB and they couldn't help but other people have including my work coach. He don't have to see them alone and even a parent could go with him and work out the next step and whether he has a case. Actually I find my work coach very good and will try to not just sign post me to CAB but deal with the questions herself.

    Good luck

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