Son has been dismissed - do we have any case?

ftm42 said:

I'm Mum to a 19 year old, who we know has issues. He has never had a 'formal diagnosis' but has had interventions from various school support and treated as if he had aspergers whilst in school. We had asked for support in college but never got it and he struggled through.

He started a f-t apprenticeship but has recently been dismissed [after only 6 weeks] as he just couldn't get himself in for their start time, so ended up very behind on hours. Despite their best endeavours, he couldn't manage to get in on time and has now been fired. To be fair, he did not disclose that he had Aspergers as we naievly believed he was OK and had 'grown out of it' so didn't advise him to disclose. He doesn't seem to fully comprehend what has happened.

Without going into the legalities, has anyone experienced this and how do we manage it going forward? We will be pursuing a formal diagnosis as we think it could help him but he really wants his job back as he enjoyed it and was perfectly capable of doing the job.

Sorry I can only give you my own experience. I wasn't diagnosed with Asperger's until 31.

I did an apprenticeship at 16-18 years old. But I was only doing it to please my mother. As she said I must be in education or work. I knew I couldn't manage real work, so I went with training instead. I was always late, but they were a community industry who were invested in supporting those with problems.

Although I had no diagnosis, it was obvious I was 'shy' & not 'normal'. Almost everyone there had issues ranging from being deaf to those with English as a second language. But the allowance they paid (same rate as JSA) was still reduced for being late or failing to go. Persistent lateness or failure to attend still resulted in removal from the apprenticeship, no matter what the excuse. If you couldn't get in, your place was given to someone else. As places were very sought after.

I hated going & even got a job to get away. Obviously I couldn't do the job either, so I had to leave it for another job. But I couldn't do that & had to leave too. In the end I resigned myself to the fact I would never be able to do a job. I had the baby I'd always wanted via a sperm donor. Went on benefits & didn't care that all my family labelled me a sponger. I later had to be diagnosed & went on DLA.

ftm42 said:

I'm Mum to a 19 year old, who we know has issues. He has never had a 'formal diagnosis' but has had interventions from various school support and treated as if he had aspergers whilst in school. We had asked for support in college but never got it and he struggled through.

He started a f-t apprenticeship but has recently been dismissed [after only 6 weeks] as he just couldn't get himself in for their start time, so ended up very behind on hours. Despite their best endeavours, he couldn't manage to get in on time and has now been fired. To be fair, he did not disclose that he had Aspergers as we naievly believed he was OK and had 'grown out of it' so didn't advise him to disclose. He doesn't seem to fully comprehend what has happened.

Without going into the legalities, has anyone experienced this and how do we manage it going forward? We will be pursuing a formal diagnosis as we think it could help him but he really wants his job back as he enjoyed it and was perfectly capable of doing the job.

Sorry I can only give you my own experience. I wasn't diagnosed with Asperger's until 31.

I did an apprenticeship at 16-18 years old. But I was only doing it to please my mother. As she said I must be in education or work. I knew I couldn't manage real work, so I went with training instead. I was always late, but they were a community industry who were invested in supporting those with problems.

Although I had no diagnosis, it was obvious I was 'shy' & not 'normal'. Almost everyone there had issues ranging from being deaf to those with English as a second language. But the allowance they paid (same rate as JSA) was still reduced for being late or failing to go. Persistent lateness or failure to attend still resulted in removal from the apprenticeship, no matter what the excuse. If you couldn't get in, your place was given to someone else. As places were very sought after.

I hated going & even got a job to get away. Obviously I couldn't do the job either, so I had to leave it for another job. But I couldn't do that & had to leave too. In the end I resigned myself to the fact I would never be able to do a job. I had the baby I'd always wanted via a sperm donor. Went on benefits & didn't care that all my family labelled me a sponger. I later had to be diagnosed & went on DLA.