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Winter

ginger_gnome

I'm not sure if this is in the right section ... not sure where to post, sorry.

My son is 6 and currently undiagnosed but is likely to get a diagnosis of Aspergers soon.  My query is this:

He's really struggling at the moment, one day this week he was sent home from school with ear-ache.  I knew he wasn't really "ill" but equally I knew that the pain he was in was real to him (I got him checked out by the doc in case).  He was anxious because there were changes in the school routine but with some encouragement he was able to go back next day.

My lad's behaviour has been really erratic lately, a lot of anger, ticks, shouting and aggression towards his siblings and my husband & I.

Looking back in my diary I can see that this time last year he was having a really hard time as well and I wondered if it's possibly winter that affects him?  My lad loves being outdoors and active.  We do lots together like baking, games etc which helps but I can see him getting upset with himself for how he's acting and I just want to help him.

Has anyone any experience of this?  I really could do with advice.

Thanks.

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  • " I was wondering if the disruption of Christmas/New Year is catching up on him especially now that everything has just suddenly dropped back into routine?"  Yes, I think a lot of 6 year olds find the new winter term very tiring  to adjust to but I remember from my son's experience that it was especially tiring for him as a  child with an ASC. He reminded me of how I feel after a day struggling in  French  to communicate/not quite understanding/being confused etc   ....I'm no linguist and I end up with a severe headache and a strong wish to escape! Luckily that only happens to me on holiday...not every day and its my choice !. Even now I notice my son very much being "on duty" ,making extra efforts to be ok in busy social situations...actually, non busy ones ,aswell and he really has to try hard with change of any kind.

    It was very good to read about the strategies you are using with the timetable etc...with such a little boy ...excellent to hear that more is understood than in my day and useful strategies are in place so quickly.  But I  also know what a huge family investment and effort is required to make these timetables an  effective support ....to keep them up to date, to negotiate change ... but they helped to keep my son calm and trusting...not so many reptitive questions ..... it paid off. Schools struggle to keep an individual's time table current...short of time  to flag up or notice how important minor( to  them) changes can be . You seem to be doing really well negotiating all this . Many congrats!

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  • " I was wondering if the disruption of Christmas/New Year is catching up on him especially now that everything has just suddenly dropped back into routine?"  Yes, I think a lot of 6 year olds find the new winter term very tiring  to adjust to but I remember from my son's experience that it was especially tiring for him as a  child with an ASC. He reminded me of how I feel after a day struggling in  French  to communicate/not quite understanding/being confused etc   ....I'm no linguist and I end up with a severe headache and a strong wish to escape! Luckily that only happens to me on holiday...not every day and its my choice !. Even now I notice my son very much being "on duty" ,making extra efforts to be ok in busy social situations...actually, non busy ones ,aswell and he really has to try hard with change of any kind.

    It was very good to read about the strategies you are using with the timetable etc...with such a little boy ...excellent to hear that more is understood than in my day and useful strategies are in place so quickly.  But I  also know what a huge family investment and effort is required to make these timetables an  effective support ....to keep them up to date, to negotiate change ... but they helped to keep my son calm and trusting...not so many reptitive questions ..... it paid off. Schools struggle to keep an individual's time table current...short of time  to flag up or notice how important minor( to  them) changes can be . You seem to be doing really well negotiating all this . Many congrats!

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