overthinking

About a year ago I think I posted a question about Overthinking and whether it is a trait of autism and you all responded as yes.

A year or so on, I can now text one support I have with the statement, Please tell me I am overthinking this...

Sometimes as off this afternoon I have mentally spent the whole afternoon churning over one small part of a friendly chat at around midday....

"I had sent an email to someone two weeks ago as was having trouble dealing with overwhelmed and my usual support is on holiday though the second contact is as good but he was involved and that makes it harder, adding to the overwhelmedness. So sent an email to a person. Only they had not replied back. the two I let off steam/send email and texts to, don't reply back every time. I don't expect them to. Anything I need extra I follow up in due course as it becomes obvious to me etc... anyway cutting this explanation all short, today when was chatting to the 'second support' he mentioned in the chatting, he had spoken to the person.  In my head all afternoon I had been churning over and over; was it about the situation 2 weeks ago. 4pm I managed to be brave enough to send a text to the second support and his reply was  may be I am overthinking.....

Anyway, this isn't about the situation I am overthinking.

But people seem to think we select our mutism and in my brief spells of it I found it don't work in terms of selective... I don't choose to. I am just unable to come up with the words to express. The words are there, too many of them in one go and struggle to force one into a verbal word....

Does anyone find they can choose to overthink something?  Can you overthink something good?  I don't mean to turn it into something bad. Just overthink a good thing?

Interested....

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  • NAS10240 said:

    My curiousity stems from my hair colour, which can only be attributed to Neanderthal DNA, and the social stigma attached to it. Redheaded females are considered more acceptable than males in many parts of social interaction yet there seems no logical reason for some of the intense dislike.

    I too have red hair (fading now unfortunately) and have also experienced some ignoramuses who have a problem with red hair - it seems to be one of the only forms of 'acceptable' bigotry left  At school I was told by some other lads 'we don't talk to red haired b.....ds', even going so far as one of them breaking my nose in an unprovoked attack. 

    And having red hair also made me very recognisable (although often confused with other like-endowed individuals).  I was stopped by police when in my thirties to identify myself as there had been an 'incident' and the only thing they had to go on was that the perpetrator had red hair. 

    I have read that the preponderence of people with red hair with Aspergers exceeds the normal population by something like twenty to one (ie, twenty times the percentage of people with red hair have Aspergers than in the population as a whole).  But there is apparently only a spurious link between red hair and Aspergers!   It would be interesting for someone to do some proper research in this (interesting but probably of not much use!)  Likewise, Aspergers sufferers are more likely to be fussy eaters (I am), and have a squint (I do).  But in the words attributed to Ben Disraeli (via Mark Twain), are these just lies, damn lies, and statistics?

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  • NAS10240 said:

    My curiousity stems from my hair colour, which can only be attributed to Neanderthal DNA, and the social stigma attached to it. Redheaded females are considered more acceptable than males in many parts of social interaction yet there seems no logical reason for some of the intense dislike.

    I too have red hair (fading now unfortunately) and have also experienced some ignoramuses who have a problem with red hair - it seems to be one of the only forms of 'acceptable' bigotry left  At school I was told by some other lads 'we don't talk to red haired b.....ds', even going so far as one of them breaking my nose in an unprovoked attack. 

    And having red hair also made me very recognisable (although often confused with other like-endowed individuals).  I was stopped by police when in my thirties to identify myself as there had been an 'incident' and the only thing they had to go on was that the perpetrator had red hair. 

    I have read that the preponderence of people with red hair with Aspergers exceeds the normal population by something like twenty to one (ie, twenty times the percentage of people with red hair have Aspergers than in the population as a whole).  But there is apparently only a spurious link between red hair and Aspergers!   It would be interesting for someone to do some proper research in this (interesting but probably of not much use!)  Likewise, Aspergers sufferers are more likely to be fussy eaters (I am), and have a squint (I do).  But in the words attributed to Ben Disraeli (via Mark Twain), are these just lies, damn lies, and statistics?

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