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In a bit of a distressed state at the moment

random

Hi,

Not sure to do, have new neighbours moving in next door. Had a knock on the door from one of them, asked if they could move furniture through my garden.

I have had no end of trouble in the past, as when I have agreed before. They just take it as they can do that anytime they want. So thought I would keep it simple this time, and simply tell them sorry, no, I have had too many problems in the past.

Thought that was the end of that, but about five minutes later they return with sofa in hands going directly in to my garden. They need to dismantle fence to get in theirs, so called the police emergency.

I was in an extemely distressed state when I called, but police refused to help. Mainly because they didn't dismantle the fence. I explained I called them, because they were about to, but when I went out to confront them they abandoned their attempt and left by my drive way which is chained and locked.

Police said, they can't do anything, but if they dismantle the fence they will deal with it. Problem is I am not at home all the time, and expect they will try again. Clearly have no regard for my home

I mentioned this to my landlord a couple of years ago, and told them I did not want neighbours using the garden at all.  They agreed with me, and I told them to pass a message on to the agent managing the property next door. To let the next tennants who move in know they can't use my garden.

I expect from their opening question when they knocked on the door, they are aware I am with same landlord as she said "who owns the drive which is chained off". I answered and said this property.

Just in a real state about these people, just can't understand why they are so inconsiderate

Random

  • Hi Sox,

    Yes, both properties owned by same landlord.

    Plucked up the courage to phone owners this morning, and they are basically doing a u-turn on what was agreed before. 

    The call didn't go very well, tried to stand my ground, but basically told to move out if I don't like it.

    I told them it is wrong what happened yesterday, I was asked, said no, and then they just did it anyway.

    So looks like I need to move, but problem is, that means leaving my job as well

    Random

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    Hi Random,

    Does your house, and the neighbours' house, belong to the same landlord?

    It is unfortunate that they have asked and then carried on without permission. Do they have any other way of getting large items into the property?

    Sox

  • Thanks for the reply, I have been through that dilema many times. I have already decided before these tennants move in, that I would put my foot down. I communicated to the clearly in simple terms. They have crossed the line as far as I am concerned, so any relationship with them is dead in the water. I simply don't think they are worth while if they don't give any respect or consideration to my wishes.

    I had problems in past when I would agree this time only, but then they just abuse it and do what they want when they want. So thought I would change tact, and just simply refuse from day one. 

    I beleive they may be being mislead by the letting agent for next door (I refuse to deal with the agent and let direct from landlord, due to a similar situation involving him). He was all lined up to take over my home by the owners. 

    It's very odd for them to only minutes after refusal to try and move in anyway. I feel they called the letting agent, and letting agent mislead them in to thinking it would be ok. That's the only thing that makes sense to me.

    I made it clear when discussing with the owners that the next tennats would not be getting access, and asked them to pass on that message to the letting agent for him to inform future tennants.

    The owners seemed very sympathetic, and didn't like the situation.

    Random

  • I can sympathise,I would feel similar. I know the answer from a general therapist would be to try not to see it as people being really bad and play it down almost so it doesn't wind you up so much but I also know for me that doesn't work because I'm usually certain people really are being inconsiderate and nobody can change my mind. 

    It's a big dilemma, especially if you've had issues in the past, do you let them and then potentially put up with them then taking the p1ss in the future or put your foot down now but then possibly not have as good a relationship with your neighbours.