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In a bit of a distressed state at the moment

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Hi,

Not sure to do, have new neighbours moving in next door. Had a knock on the door from one of them, asked if they could move furniture through my garden.

I have had no end of trouble in the past, as when I have agreed before. They just take it as they can do that anytime they want. So thought I would keep it simple this time, and simply tell them sorry, no, I have had too many problems in the past.

Thought that was the end of that, but about five minutes later they return with sofa in hands going directly in to my garden. They need to dismantle fence to get in theirs, so called the police emergency.

I was in an extemely distressed state when I called, but police refused to help. Mainly because they didn't dismantle the fence. I explained I called them, because they were about to, but when I went out to confront them they abandoned their attempt and left by my drive way which is chained and locked.

Police said, they can't do anything, but if they dismantle the fence they will deal with it. Problem is I am not at home all the time, and expect they will try again. Clearly have no regard for my home

I mentioned this to my landlord a couple of years ago, and told them I did not want neighbours using the garden at all.  They agreed with me, and I told them to pass a message on to the agent managing the property next door. To let the next tennants who move in know they can't use my garden.

I expect from their opening question when they knocked on the door, they are aware I am with same landlord as she said "who owns the drive which is chained off". I answered and said this property.

Just in a real state about these people, just can't understand why they are so inconsiderate

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  • Thanks Sox, as always very incisive points you put forward; has certainly made we feel easier about it.

    I think my anger is mostly down to unfairness of the situation and blatant disrespect for my feelings or privacy. 

    I think I need to find a way to accept that is simply going to happen while I am renting here. If I was the owner, I would have more choice over what happens, and can put things in place to help, and eventually put a stop to it, but I don't have that control.

    I notice one of the neighbours has grown a hedge practically the whole length of the garden, smart move. Maybe I shouldn't have been so keen to remove the ivy that had overgrown on some of the panels. It is astonishing how quickly a raspberry bush has grown after the owners cut down this beutiful pear tree without notice which I miss.

    I guess one thing positive, is they are owners I beleive in this house, so unlikely to see different people move in or out on a regular basis.

    I don't feel I should just give them free run of my home, there was a period in past when I did that, but things just seemed to escalate.

    I am going to find a way where it doesn't affect me too much.

    Try and put some more effort in to finding a new home of my own

    Thanks,
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  • Thanks Sox, as always very incisive points you put forward; has certainly made we feel easier about it.

    I think my anger is mostly down to unfairness of the situation and blatant disrespect for my feelings or privacy. 

    I think I need to find a way to accept that is simply going to happen while I am renting here. If I was the owner, I would have more choice over what happens, and can put things in place to help, and eventually put a stop to it, but I don't have that control.

    I notice one of the neighbours has grown a hedge practically the whole length of the garden, smart move. Maybe I shouldn't have been so keen to remove the ivy that had overgrown on some of the panels. It is astonishing how quickly a raspberry bush has grown after the owners cut down this beutiful pear tree without notice which I miss.

    I guess one thing positive, is they are owners I beleive in this house, so unlikely to see different people move in or out on a regular basis.

    I don't feel I should just give them free run of my home, there was a period in past when I did that, but things just seemed to escalate.

    I am going to find a way where it doesn't affect me too much.

    Try and put some more effort in to finding a new home of my own

    Thanks,
    Random 

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