In a bit of a distressed state at the moment

Hi,

Not sure to do, have new neighbours moving in next door. Had a knock on the door from one of them, asked if they could move furniture through my garden.

I have had no end of trouble in the past, as when I have agreed before. They just take it as they can do that anytime they want. So thought I would keep it simple this time, and simply tell them sorry, no, I have had too many problems in the past.

Thought that was the end of that, but about five minutes later they return with sofa in hands going directly in to my garden. They need to dismantle fence to get in theirs, so called the police emergency.

I was in an extemely distressed state when I called, but police refused to help. Mainly because they didn't dismantle the fence. I explained I called them, because they were about to, but when I went out to confront them they abandoned their attempt and left by my drive way which is chained and locked.

Police said, they can't do anything, but if they dismantle the fence they will deal with it. Problem is I am not at home all the time, and expect they will try again. Clearly have no regard for my home

I mentioned this to my landlord a couple of years ago, and told them I did not want neighbours using the garden at all.  They agreed with me, and I told them to pass a message on to the agent managing the property next door. To let the next tennants who move in know they can't use my garden.

I expect from their opening question when they knocked on the door, they are aware I am with same landlord as she said "who owns the drive which is chained off". I answered and said this property.

Just in a real state about these people, just can't understand why they are so inconsiderate

Random

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  • Former Member
    Former Member

    random said:

    This whole situation has been going through my mind the past few days

    Trying to find a way forward through this, but seems impossible

    It isn't impossible, you won't necessarily get exactly what you want but you have to work out whether you can manage to cope with occasional intrusions or whether you want to lose your home and move somewhere else.

    It seems to me that you are viewing this in a very black and white, catastrophising way. Life is full of grey, sub-optimal, cruddy bits. Can you live with the fact that your desire for this level of privacy can give way to your need to keep this home?

    As an alternative, could you build a fence across the garden so that people can cross part of it for access but you keep your privacy?

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  • Former Member
    Former Member

    random said:

    This whole situation has been going through my mind the past few days

    Trying to find a way forward through this, but seems impossible

    It isn't impossible, you won't necessarily get exactly what you want but you have to work out whether you can manage to cope with occasional intrusions or whether you want to lose your home and move somewhere else.

    It seems to me that you are viewing this in a very black and white, catastrophising way. Life is full of grey, sub-optimal, cruddy bits. Can you live with the fact that your desire for this level of privacy can give way to your need to keep this home?

    As an alternative, could you build a fence across the garden so that people can cross part of it for access but you keep your privacy?

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