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In a bit of a distressed state at the moment

random

Hi,

Not sure to do, have new neighbours moving in next door. Had a knock on the door from one of them, asked if they could move furniture through my garden.

I have had no end of trouble in the past, as when I have agreed before. They just take it as they can do that anytime they want. So thought I would keep it simple this time, and simply tell them sorry, no, I have had too many problems in the past.

Thought that was the end of that, but about five minutes later they return with sofa in hands going directly in to my garden. They need to dismantle fence to get in theirs, so called the police emergency.

I was in an extemely distressed state when I called, but police refused to help. Mainly because they didn't dismantle the fence. I explained I called them, because they were about to, but when I went out to confront them they abandoned their attempt and left by my drive way which is chained and locked.

Police said, they can't do anything, but if they dismantle the fence they will deal with it. Problem is I am not at home all the time, and expect they will try again. Clearly have no regard for my home

I mentioned this to my landlord a couple of years ago, and told them I did not want neighbours using the garden at all.  They agreed with me, and I told them to pass a message on to the agent managing the property next door. To let the next tennants who move in know they can't use my garden.

I expect from their opening question when they knocked on the door, they are aware I am with same landlord as she said "who owns the drive which is chained off". I answered and said this property.

Just in a real state about these people, just can't understand why they are so inconsiderate

Random

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  • Hi,

    Thanks for the response;

    > unless, of course, the new tenants are choosing to use random's garden when they don't really need to. 

    That is exactly what has been happening in the past with 3 tennants. (on 2 occaisions have found several people at same time)

    > I could understand it if people were simply trying to harass random 

    That is exactly what has happened with previous tennant:

    I first found them in my garden when I was in on a hot day with window open and tv on. I aproached them, explaining this was my home, showing them the boundary to my property, and asking them to leave. I was angry, but was very direct and clear with what I was saying, no swearing, and not in an agressive manner. Their response was a torrent of abuse, they left. I phoned landlords, they told me not to worry about it, they will not put up with that behaviour, and they were prospective tennats who would not be given the tenancy.

    Two weeks later same person knocked on door with a smug smile spent fifteen minutes literally begging to use garden to move furniture, after I repeatedly refued. I just wanted rid of him, so told him "just this once" I would let him move furniture. I continued to spot them in the garden on a regular basis.

    I met with the landlords that time 2 years ago, I told them as they had already moved this tennant in, I didn't want to antogonise the situation. I said when the next tennants move in, I would be refusing all access to the garden, which they said they understood how I felt, and agreed to support me.

    You mention my sensitivites, yes this affects me is much stronger than an NT. When the autism diagnostic team was supporting me, I have visits from a mental health nurse roughly every 2 weeks, when I described what was happening. She was genuinely shocked and angry about it.

    At that time though I was biding my time, until next tennants moved in, so I could follow through what I had already discussed and agreed with the landlords.

    It took a lot of energy on my part to meet and discuss this with the landlords 2 years ago. In the mean time they had changed their minds, but did not let me know. 

    I don't have a problem with them just using it to move large furniture in/out so long as I am given reasonable notice. I don't really know why that continues to fail. I don't feel I have done anything wrong here ?

    I am the one suffering with it, and even though an NT would not be affected so much, I don't feel they would be acceptable to the situation either (I am talking about the aspect of them using garden when they don't need to, or without notice)

    Random

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  • Hi,

    Thanks for the response;

    > unless, of course, the new tenants are choosing to use random's garden when they don't really need to. 

    That is exactly what has been happening in the past with 3 tennants. (on 2 occaisions have found several people at same time)

    > I could understand it if people were simply trying to harass random 

    That is exactly what has happened with previous tennant:

    I first found them in my garden when I was in on a hot day with window open and tv on. I aproached them, explaining this was my home, showing them the boundary to my property, and asking them to leave. I was angry, but was very direct and clear with what I was saying, no swearing, and not in an agressive manner. Their response was a torrent of abuse, they left. I phoned landlords, they told me not to worry about it, they will not put up with that behaviour, and they were prospective tennats who would not be given the tenancy.

    Two weeks later same person knocked on door with a smug smile spent fifteen minutes literally begging to use garden to move furniture, after I repeatedly refued. I just wanted rid of him, so told him "just this once" I would let him move furniture. I continued to spot them in the garden on a regular basis.

    I met with the landlords that time 2 years ago, I told them as they had already moved this tennant in, I didn't want to antogonise the situation. I said when the next tennants move in, I would be refusing all access to the garden, which they said they understood how I felt, and agreed to support me.

    You mention my sensitivites, yes this affects me is much stronger than an NT. When the autism diagnostic team was supporting me, I have visits from a mental health nurse roughly every 2 weeks, when I described what was happening. She was genuinely shocked and angry about it.

    At that time though I was biding my time, until next tennants moved in, so I could follow through what I had already discussed and agreed with the landlords.

    It took a lot of energy on my part to meet and discuss this with the landlords 2 years ago. In the mean time they had changed their minds, but did not let me know. 

    I don't have a problem with them just using it to move large furniture in/out so long as I am given reasonable notice. I don't really know why that continues to fail. I don't feel I have done anything wrong here ?

    I am the one suffering with it, and even though an NT would not be affected so much, I don't feel they would be acceptable to the situation either (I am talking about the aspect of them using garden when they don't need to, or without notice)

    Random

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