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In a bit of a distressed state at the moment

random

Hi,

Not sure to do, have new neighbours moving in next door. Had a knock on the door from one of them, asked if they could move furniture through my garden.

I have had no end of trouble in the past, as when I have agreed before. They just take it as they can do that anytime they want. So thought I would keep it simple this time, and simply tell them sorry, no, I have had too many problems in the past.

Thought that was the end of that, but about five minutes later they return with sofa in hands going directly in to my garden. They need to dismantle fence to get in theirs, so called the police emergency.

I was in an extemely distressed state when I called, but police refused to help. Mainly because they didn't dismantle the fence. I explained I called them, because they were about to, but when I went out to confront them they abandoned their attempt and left by my drive way which is chained and locked.

Police said, they can't do anything, but if they dismantle the fence they will deal with it. Problem is I am not at home all the time, and expect they will try again. Clearly have no regard for my home

I mentioned this to my landlord a couple of years ago, and told them I did not want neighbours using the garden at all.  They agreed with me, and I told them to pass a message on to the agent managing the property next door. To let the next tennants who move in know they can't use my garden.

I expect from their opening question when they knocked on the door, they are aware I am with same landlord as she said "who owns the drive which is chained off". I answered and said this property.

Just in a real state about these people, just can't understand why they are so inconsiderate

Random

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  • Former Member
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    The issue is probably that Random is really struggling to cope with dealing with his neighbours and is in danger of being unable to cope with the loss of privacy. This wouldn't be much of a deal for an NT person but Random hasn't found a good way of accepting this loss of privacy.

    It seems to me that there are two options.

    a) Move to a more isolated location and give up the job.

    b) Work out how to cope with the unwanted intrusions. Ultimately it is the landlord's property and you may have less rights to control what happens in the garden. The landlord may have told the new neighbours that they have to inform you that they intend to use your garden whereas you thought that they had to have your permission. Is it the end of the world if they inform you that they want to have access and you can then shut the curtains and ignore them until they are finished?

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  • Former Member
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    The issue is probably that Random is really struggling to cope with dealing with his neighbours and is in danger of being unable to cope with the loss of privacy. This wouldn't be much of a deal for an NT person but Random hasn't found a good way of accepting this loss of privacy.

    It seems to me that there are two options.

    a) Move to a more isolated location and give up the job.

    b) Work out how to cope with the unwanted intrusions. Ultimately it is the landlord's property and you may have less rights to control what happens in the garden. The landlord may have told the new neighbours that they have to inform you that they intend to use your garden whereas you thought that they had to have your permission. Is it the end of the world if they inform you that they want to have access and you can then shut the curtains and ignore them until they are finished?

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