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Adult diagnosis

Bandit

We are looking for some help. We are the parents of a 25 year old male who we think has been told by his GP that he might have Aspergers. He has always struggled with social contact, although he manages to live in a flat with his brother, and to function reasonably well at the moment. Although he is academically capable, and achieved at school, he fell out of University twice as he simply could not cope with the environment. At that point he pretty much shut himself in his bedroom for the best part of 2 years. He has been unable to find and sustain employment. He appears to recognise that he has challenges, and appears willing to do something about it. Our question is where do we go from here? Any thoughts or shared experiences would be welcome.

  • That is very helpful. Thank you very much.

  • Hopefully posting links is ok, there are a few tests including the regular aq test at amiautistic.com/tests 

    Yes this is a website for a book on autism but the links are free and nobody makes any commission or anything from them. Some ask for details for research purposes but you can skip that.

    I would make sure he is aware there are positive as well as negative sides particularly if he's high functioning which it sounds like he is if he did well academically and got into uni.

    I couldn't even bring myself to go to uni and went to work after college but I've done very well for myself finding work that fits well with my abilities and learning to overcome the difficulties. So he shouldn't feel that he won't be able to do well in life and there are now lots of resources around for adults on the spectrum.

    Hope that helps.

  • Thank you, that's really useful. We have thought for a long time that there is something and, in many ways, it would be a relief to us (selfish perhaps) to know, and to be able to help/support him. For him to openly talk about the possibility of Aspergers we see as a big step forward. We want to find ways of helping him, but recognise that (at 25 years old) it is very much up to him.

  • Thank you. We will see if he's prepared to do that.

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    Have him do the AQ test. Not sure of the address.

    Then go to your GP.