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Lost in the midst of diagnosis!

Squirt

Hi, 

I'm sorry if I've put this in the wrong place but this is my first post, so please redirect if warranted.

I'm 23 years old and was intially diagnosed with BPD when I was 18 but didn't really receive treatment. I returned to a personality disorder clinic in April and after a lengthy and quite traumatic assessment, I was told that I had either Asperger's or HFA.

What a shock that was!

They discharged me from their service with a list of a few websites and that was it. No indication of what to do next. Nada.

I'm waiting to see the secondary mental health team, why I don't know, at the end of AUGUST (!) and have booked in with my GP to get the ball rolling on what to do next. But is this the right thing to do? 

Since being told, my whole world has turned upside down. I feel lost, confused, angry and questioning everything I've done. It's affecting my work (a PhD in Biology) and my poor fiancé doesn't know how to help.

Is this normal? Have I made the right steps towards getting a diagnosis?

It seems outrageous to drop a bombshell like that on someone and then expect them to go away and process it all on their own?!
 

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  • Hi Squirt,

    It's completely understandable that you are feeling this way, given how you have been treated. Hopefully when you visit your GP they will have received communication from the personality disorder team, including the reason for your onward referral. You certainly have the right to ask, and to know what is being planned for you - it is about you, after all.

    Your fiance also has some options, such as reading about autism, joining this forum or calling a helpline to talk about understanding and coping with the information. Some areas do have groups for partners, but i don't know much about these or the areas in which they are located.

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  • Hi Squirt,

    It's completely understandable that you are feeling this way, given how you have been treated. Hopefully when you visit your GP they will have received communication from the personality disorder team, including the reason for your onward referral. You certainly have the right to ask, and to know what is being planned for you - it is about you, after all.

    Your fiance also has some options, such as reading about autism, joining this forum or calling a helpline to talk about understanding and coping with the information. Some areas do have groups for partners, but i don't know much about these or the areas in which they are located.

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