Hello there, I have attention deficit disorder and therefore I am suseptible to PTSD.
This has happened twice in my life when put in an unescapable stressfull situation.
In 2002 my father bought a house where i would take in lodgers to help pay the morgage.
i took in a man who obviously had emotional problems and was extremely hyperactive. We both were musicians so we became friends. He would have anxiety tantrums which I just brushed of and accepted as i am a kind and caring person.
He dressed flamboyantly and loved the attention of other people he suffered from chronic perfectionism. I had no knowledge of mental health problems at the time.
He loved to tell others about how wonderfull he was and how his band was going to america to record. But he would have anxiety attacks and not be able to perform.
when his band broke up he became distraught. my band was getting very popular and succesfull and i would take him along to watch as I thought that he would like that. He would often come to me and ask me how I did things.
And I believe that I became a significant other in his life.
when i started my own business he did the same but there was no solid foundation to his ideas and he put a lot of his money into it and it failed.
He became extremely jealous of me and became very difficult and obstructive.
He did not hide his emotions and i was the subject of continual intense jealous rage.
I asked the landlord my father to get him to leave but my father felt sorry for him.
I wish I had been more assertive but i am kind and gentle.
Allowing him to stay just seemed to give him the sign that his behaviour was acceptable.
He was jealous of everything I did.
eventually my patience snaped when he kept on saying " I dont understand why everyone does not want to be like me. "
When I told him he was an idiot he went into destructive overdrive.
I researched his behaviour and came across Narcissist and i had a nervous breakdown.
I then found out from another lodger that he hasd asked him to help him undermine me.
eventually i got them all to leave . I suffered from Post traumatic stress which lasted several years.
I am now more informed and would like to get this man some help.
Is this possible ?
Fingers 1
