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Really Struggling with life

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I am in a real bad spot at the moment, feeling really low, things have been bad for some time. I have been fighting a problem with one of my pension schemes, which has affected me very deeply. I discovered last year, my pension was invested in the incorrect funds, the provider claims I phoned them to instruct them to move the funds, but I never gave them the instructions. I have followed it up it financial ombudsman, and they are siding with the pension scheme. Just feel like they have led me down and alley way and mugged me, and are going to get away with it legally.

Its not just this pension thing, there is are a large number of problems, that take enormous effort and time to try and deal with. Problems with house and landlord, problems with finances where everyone you speak too seems to think you have some spare funds magically appear. I am single, not on a low salary, but that is just not enough to support demands and cost for housing, running a car, food, council tax, etc.

I collected many things for years, put a huge effort in to storing them carefully. Over a year ago now, I found a couple of things that have got damaged from damp conditions. Was a massive setup, years of collecting, and care. I tried to sort through them to find out extent of the damage, and sell what was fine, but just got to the point I could'nt handle all the grief to see stuff I had collected get ruined. This is not storing stuff in a loft or garage, I stored in a spare bedroom carefully and placed in strong boxes.

I have been off work for past couple of weeks with stress. I have spoken to my gp, to get some further help for my mental health, but it is like hitting my head against a brick wall. No body seems to listen, and being an older single male, society just seems to totally dismiss my existence, except for when someone wants me to pay for something.

Tonight discovered an event I would like to go to, has sold out, its only a little thing, but when I am in a deep down spell like this, it really amplifies the whole thing. Really struggling to cling to something, but just can't find anything, and everything seems to be crumbling around me.

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  • Hi Sox,

    My main aim with my complaint is to get the support I need for my Anxiety, Depression, and OCD Traits. There are 2 mental health teams, both have denied/refused support, one saying my needs are too complex for them (I do partially agree with that); the other team has refused without officially providing a reason (but unofficially the reason is because I have been able to support a full time job). 

    In reflection, my professional life has consumed my personal life, I got my first job just before my 16th birthday, after a very difficult childhood. Full time if I needed, but worked part time, as I wanted to go to college. Since then I have been in full time employment, except for a brief period around the dot com crash. 

    Another part of my complaint, is for the crisis line which I turned to for help when I had one of these deep episodes. As I mentioned I have trouble on phone calls, I answered all the questions mainly associated with my ocd and fears in supermarkets. The person on the call thought I was joking. It made my situation worse, I told the autism team, they have it all logged on their system. I refused to call the crisis line again, but that means my medical records don't show the following deep episodes where I would have called.

    I am also diabetic, and there had been tremendous pressure on sorting that without sorting my mental health. From my time with the autism team, I discovered how my diabetes evolved from my autism and ocd, they all intertwine. I have more than enough problems with supermarkets anyway. She said let's get your physical health sorted first, ready for your mental health. The pressure is just adding to my depression, and causing huge amount of distress. Great way to treat someone using anxiety with someone who is already highly anxious.

    I am angry about the questions about suicide, I feel it is there to absolve any responsibity for the health professional you are talking too if you do follow to end your life. My depression scores have been very high, but nothing has been done, there just simply seems to be lack of support, it is like they are waiting for me to get to the level where I am suicidal enough. That process is just prolonging my suffering unecescarily, which I think is totally unacceptable.

    Sorry, just ranting about a lot of stuff on my mind.

    I will mention the afw to my advocate, she has not been much help so far, as my complaint is complex, so do need to break that down and focus on the main areas.

    I had contacted the Pals service, and have had some limited success on that, will follow that through.

    I will follow up with my employer, I think they will be ok about it.

    Thanks again,

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  • Hi Sox,

    My main aim with my complaint is to get the support I need for my Anxiety, Depression, and OCD Traits. There are 2 mental health teams, both have denied/refused support, one saying my needs are too complex for them (I do partially agree with that); the other team has refused without officially providing a reason (but unofficially the reason is because I have been able to support a full time job). 

    In reflection, my professional life has consumed my personal life, I got my first job just before my 16th birthday, after a very difficult childhood. Full time if I needed, but worked part time, as I wanted to go to college. Since then I have been in full time employment, except for a brief period around the dot com crash. 

    Another part of my complaint, is for the crisis line which I turned to for help when I had one of these deep episodes. As I mentioned I have trouble on phone calls, I answered all the questions mainly associated with my ocd and fears in supermarkets. The person on the call thought I was joking. It made my situation worse, I told the autism team, they have it all logged on their system. I refused to call the crisis line again, but that means my medical records don't show the following deep episodes where I would have called.

    I am also diabetic, and there had been tremendous pressure on sorting that without sorting my mental health. From my time with the autism team, I discovered how my diabetes evolved from my autism and ocd, they all intertwine. I have more than enough problems with supermarkets anyway. She said let's get your physical health sorted first, ready for your mental health. The pressure is just adding to my depression, and causing huge amount of distress. Great way to treat someone using anxiety with someone who is already highly anxious.

    I am angry about the questions about suicide, I feel it is there to absolve any responsibity for the health professional you are talking too if you do follow to end your life. My depression scores have been very high, but nothing has been done, there just simply seems to be lack of support, it is like they are waiting for me to get to the level where I am suicidal enough. That process is just prolonging my suffering unecescarily, which I think is totally unacceptable.

    Sorry, just ranting about a lot of stuff on my mind.

    I will mention the afw to my advocate, she has not been much help so far, as my complaint is complex, so do need to break that down and focus on the main areas.

    I had contacted the Pals service, and have had some limited success on that, will follow that through.

    I will follow up with my employer, I think they will be ok about it.

    Thanks again,

    Random

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