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Really Struggling with life

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I am in a real bad spot at the moment, feeling really low, things have been bad for some time. I have been fighting a problem with one of my pension schemes, which has affected me very deeply. I discovered last year, my pension was invested in the incorrect funds, the provider claims I phoned them to instruct them to move the funds, but I never gave them the instructions. I have followed it up it financial ombudsman, and they are siding with the pension scheme. Just feel like they have led me down and alley way and mugged me, and are going to get away with it legally.

Its not just this pension thing, there is are a large number of problems, that take enormous effort and time to try and deal with. Problems with house and landlord, problems with finances where everyone you speak too seems to think you have some spare funds magically appear. I am single, not on a low salary, but that is just not enough to support demands and cost for housing, running a car, food, council tax, etc.

I collected many things for years, put a huge effort in to storing them carefully. Over a year ago now, I found a couple of things that have got damaged from damp conditions. Was a massive setup, years of collecting, and care. I tried to sort through them to find out extent of the damage, and sell what was fine, but just got to the point I could'nt handle all the grief to see stuff I had collected get ruined. This is not storing stuff in a loft or garage, I stored in a spare bedroom carefully and placed in strong boxes.

I have been off work for past couple of weeks with stress. I have spoken to my gp, to get some further help for my mental health, but it is like hitting my head against a brick wall. No body seems to listen, and being an older single male, society just seems to totally dismiss my existence, except for when someone wants me to pay for something.

Tonight discovered an event I would like to go to, has sold out, its only a little thing, but when I am in a deep down spell like this, it really amplifies the whole thing. Really struggling to cling to something, but just can't find anything, and everything seems to be crumbling around me.

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  • Thanks again Sox for responding. I am not getting any active help with my Anxiety

    They have put me on medication, which I was reluctant to start, mainly because in my young adult life, I collapsed from the affect of a drug I was taking for anxiety. Fortunately at that time, I was living with a flat mate, so he called the ambulance. These days I live on my own, the only neighbour I had the odd chat with now and then has moved out.

    The medication is helpful for mild episodes where I feel my anxiety is building up, and the additional medication seems to improve my concentration. When I get a deep spell, they hardly make any difference. I have been and still am fighting for some support.

    I can relate to "executive function", I used to be ok with this in my 30s, but in last several years, this seems to be getting worse. I agree I need help with this. The autism team noticed this, and has referred me for a social worker to keep in touch with me to help with day to day stuff. I haven't heard back from them.

    One major problem that is causing a lot of difficulty, is that I am finding it difficult to talk over the phone. I have made it clear to people that I have difficulty, but everyone expects you to call someone. This has been improving very slightly recently, but is a big problem. 

    I understand catch22 situation, and that certainly applies to me over the phone.Face to face communication I am ok with, until I get side stepped with double negative, or multiple questions at once. Even then I have to take a big pause and can slowly explain and untangle the questions and answers.

    I think one of my problems is that I appear to be perfectly capable and intelligent, and people, including general medical staff, can not see my autism, in the interactions I have with them. My ability to hold down a full time job, seems to fuel this problem, although I in the middle of 3 weeks where I have been signed off work at the moment.

    I have ocd traits which is feeding into my depression, and anxiety.

    Thanks for the thread on Access To Work, I did spot that and it seemed like a good solution. I actually emailed my employer to let them know, but I checked though the government sites, and it does not includes a counsellor to be a type of support worker that qualifies for the scheme. I notice there has been some more replies on that thread, I will catch up with those and keep with the other thread on this matter.

    I have an advocate, was trying to get together a complaint to the nhs trust with her help, but that has proven difficult, as I am generally not coping with anything else. I have an appointment with the access and assesment team the end of next week. I feel it just maybe a formality as they have already rejected 2 referals from the autism team

    Thanks for you help Sox

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  • Thanks again Sox for responding. I am not getting any active help with my Anxiety

    They have put me on medication, which I was reluctant to start, mainly because in my young adult life, I collapsed from the affect of a drug I was taking for anxiety. Fortunately at that time, I was living with a flat mate, so he called the ambulance. These days I live on my own, the only neighbour I had the odd chat with now and then has moved out.

    The medication is helpful for mild episodes where I feel my anxiety is building up, and the additional medication seems to improve my concentration. When I get a deep spell, they hardly make any difference. I have been and still am fighting for some support.

    I can relate to "executive function", I used to be ok with this in my 30s, but in last several years, this seems to be getting worse. I agree I need help with this. The autism team noticed this, and has referred me for a social worker to keep in touch with me to help with day to day stuff. I haven't heard back from them.

    One major problem that is causing a lot of difficulty, is that I am finding it difficult to talk over the phone. I have made it clear to people that I have difficulty, but everyone expects you to call someone. This has been improving very slightly recently, but is a big problem. 

    I understand catch22 situation, and that certainly applies to me over the phone.Face to face communication I am ok with, until I get side stepped with double negative, or multiple questions at once. Even then I have to take a big pause and can slowly explain and untangle the questions and answers.

    I think one of my problems is that I appear to be perfectly capable and intelligent, and people, including general medical staff, can not see my autism, in the interactions I have with them. My ability to hold down a full time job, seems to fuel this problem, although I in the middle of 3 weeks where I have been signed off work at the moment.

    I have ocd traits which is feeding into my depression, and anxiety.

    Thanks for the thread on Access To Work, I did spot that and it seemed like a good solution. I actually emailed my employer to let them know, but I checked though the government sites, and it does not includes a counsellor to be a type of support worker that qualifies for the scheme. I notice there has been some more replies on that thread, I will catch up with those and keep with the other thread on this matter.

    I have an advocate, was trying to get together a complaint to the nhs trust with her help, but that has proven difficult, as I am generally not coping with anything else. I have an appointment with the access and assesment team the end of next week. I feel it just maybe a formality as they have already rejected 2 referals from the autism team

    Thanks for you help Sox

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