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Really Struggling with life

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I am in a real bad spot at the moment, feeling really low, things have been bad for some time. I have been fighting a problem with one of my pension schemes, which has affected me very deeply. I discovered last year, my pension was invested in the incorrect funds, the provider claims I phoned them to instruct them to move the funds, but I never gave them the instructions. I have followed it up it financial ombudsman, and they are siding with the pension scheme. Just feel like they have led me down and alley way and mugged me, and are going to get away with it legally.

Its not just this pension thing, there is are a large number of problems, that take enormous effort and time to try and deal with. Problems with house and landlord, problems with finances where everyone you speak too seems to think you have some spare funds magically appear. I am single, not on a low salary, but that is just not enough to support demands and cost for housing, running a car, food, council tax, etc.

I collected many things for years, put a huge effort in to storing them carefully. Over a year ago now, I found a couple of things that have got damaged from damp conditions. Was a massive setup, years of collecting, and care. I tried to sort through them to find out extent of the damage, and sell what was fine, but just got to the point I could'nt handle all the grief to see stuff I had collected get ruined. This is not storing stuff in a loft or garage, I stored in a spare bedroom carefully and placed in strong boxes.

I have been off work for past couple of weeks with stress. I have spoken to my gp, to get some further help for my mental health, but it is like hitting my head against a brick wall. No body seems to listen, and being an older single male, society just seems to totally dismiss my existence, except for when someone wants me to pay for something.

Tonight discovered an event I would like to go to, has sold out, its only a little thing, but when I am in a deep down spell like this, it really amplifies the whole thing. Really struggling to cling to something, but just can't find anything, and everything seems to be crumbling around me.

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    Hi Random,

    You mentioned, in a previous post, that you had anxiety and depression. Are you getting any active help with that at the moment?

    One of the common issues that people with autism have is "executive function" which means that we need help with keeping up with the routine administration of everyday life. Am I right in thinking that you could probably benefit from some help in that part of your life?

    It also strikes me from your posts that you are living out the Catch-22 of autism. Your autism means that you need help but your autism gets in the way of actually getting that help because you can't communicate your problems to the people that need to know that you have problems. Does that make sense? Have you seen the advocacy information at www.autism.org.uk/.../advocacy.aspx ?

    Have you tried calling Access to Work? www.gov.uk/.../overview This is a scheme that tries to keep people in work (among other aims) and they provide a range of assistance (they provide money for people to spend on help) Clovis said recently that AtW had funded counselling and I think you might benefit from similar assistance see community.autism.org.uk/.../depression-counselling for that discussion

    I don't know what help NAS could provide to you, they should know all of the services and more importantly they should be able to provide assistance in negotiating through the system to actually get the right services to the right people -  I have flagged this thread to them and they may get in touch (don't hold your breath though, I don't know how reactive they are to situations like this)

    'Sox

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  • Former Member
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    Hi Random,

    You mentioned, in a previous post, that you had anxiety and depression. Are you getting any active help with that at the moment?

    One of the common issues that people with autism have is "executive function" which means that we need help with keeping up with the routine administration of everyday life. Am I right in thinking that you could probably benefit from some help in that part of your life?

    It also strikes me from your posts that you are living out the Catch-22 of autism. Your autism means that you need help but your autism gets in the way of actually getting that help because you can't communicate your problems to the people that need to know that you have problems. Does that make sense? Have you seen the advocacy information at www.autism.org.uk/.../advocacy.aspx ?

    Have you tried calling Access to Work? www.gov.uk/.../overview This is a scheme that tries to keep people in work (among other aims) and they provide a range of assistance (they provide money for people to spend on help) Clovis said recently that AtW had funded counselling and I think you might benefit from similar assistance see community.autism.org.uk/.../depression-counselling for that discussion

    I don't know what help NAS could provide to you, they should know all of the services and more importantly they should be able to provide assistance in negotiating through the system to actually get the right services to the right people -  I have flagged this thread to them and they may get in touch (don't hold your breath though, I don't know how reactive they are to situations like this)

    'Sox

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