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Living with saying the wrong thing

mrs.snooks

Hi all. Saying the wrong thing, for me is a huge problem. May I say the biggest problem that I have with my ASD. How do you manage all the negative feelings about saying the wrong thing, offending people without meaning to and upseting people without meaning to.

Basically every day I feel bad about something that I have said that I know I have been insensitive about. 

  • Hi Mrs.Snooks,

    I know exactly how you feel, i'm forever saying the 'wrong' thing and am always apologising for it as i hate the thought of offending someone or upsetting someone when that wasn't my itention. I dont know if this will help you, but i actually send a message to whoever it is i've said the comment to, just explaining that i didn't mean it the way it may have come across. This usually resolves the issue, and i feel alot better for it then too.

    I don't always do this, but i find that when i do, it does help me feel better about the situation rather than keep going through it in my mind.

    otherwise, you could try speaking to a counsellor or someone of the sort and ask of other ways you could address these situations. My psychotherapist is really good at making me think about things from another point of view etc.

    I hope you find something that suits you :)

  • Hi Mrs. Snooks,

    I think this may be a common problem for many users of this forum, including myself. It is very easy, especially in retrospect, to overanalyse these kinds of situations.

    One thing that may be helpful in dealing with these thought processes is CBT (Cognative-Behaviour Therapy). There are many books available on this subject, and they deal largely with these kinds of feelings.