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Being asked to take off my hat.

MidEssexGuy

Like many people on the spectrum, I am seriously senstive to light, mostly artifical light. I wear a cap to block out bright lights when I'm out and about, often with sunglasses as and when I feel I need them. It'll only take a few minutes of bright lights for my brain to start struggling and it can take hours to recover.

Dispite all my sensory and social challenges, I do have a very good social life but sometimes I have to cut my nights short. I'm not allowed to wear a cap in most bar's in town, no matter how much I explain. I see my friends for the warm up drinks, then I have to go home when they go else where.

I've also had this issue in local shops before (they don't allow hats for security issues). I just tell them I need it because I'm autistic and if they don't like that I refuse to buy anything there.

It's not a day to day issue but it's horrible feeling left out, for something I can't help.

Anyone know the legal position on this?

(ps. I really wish this forum had a spell checker )

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  • I think it is more than a problem with the NAS logo.

    One of the supermarkets does a £1000 donation every month, by means of customers putting a token in one of three charities. Last month NAS was one of the charities.

    It got £120 share, vastly outbid by the other options, which were most unlikely things.

    I don't think NAS or autism are understood

    A hat can be a factor, but I'm sure some of it will be facial expression, bearing, perceived attitude. Officialdom will spot someone who doesn't look quite right to them and simply decide that person isn't conforming, and isn't going to get good customer service.

    I like wearing a leather jacket and have a black American marine jacket I'm fond of but hardly wear now. Of course black leather jackets are by themselves regarded as a sign of trouble. But if I wore it I had more difficulty than usual, and I think it was a combination of the jacket and my poor eye contact, shifty look.

    Let's face it, one thing NAS is ever going to do for us is shift public understanding of how autism manifests. They don't even believe in many of the manifestations themselves - not in the Triad. (Sorry I'm not supposed to say negative things - but the invisibility of autism and support for autism is a large part of the problem).

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  • I think it is more than a problem with the NAS logo.

    One of the supermarkets does a £1000 donation every month, by means of customers putting a token in one of three charities. Last month NAS was one of the charities.

    It got £120 share, vastly outbid by the other options, which were most unlikely things.

    I don't think NAS or autism are understood

    A hat can be a factor, but I'm sure some of it will be facial expression, bearing, perceived attitude. Officialdom will spot someone who doesn't look quite right to them and simply decide that person isn't conforming, and isn't going to get good customer service.

    I like wearing a leather jacket and have a black American marine jacket I'm fond of but hardly wear now. Of course black leather jackets are by themselves regarded as a sign of trouble. But if I wore it I had more difficulty than usual, and I think it was a combination of the jacket and my poor eye contact, shifty look.

    Let's face it, one thing NAS is ever going to do for us is shift public understanding of how autism manifests. They don't even believe in many of the manifestations themselves - not in the Triad. (Sorry I'm not supposed to say negative things - but the invisibility of autism and support for autism is a large part of the problem).

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