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I haven't said this in years, but please would you help with my (CBT) homework?

felineaut

I am participating in CBT to help me learn new ways to manage myself in challenging situations. My therapist/practitioner/tutor suggested we each seek answers to questions about a hypothetical scenario. I hope it's ok to post this here, I wondered if there's anyone with a few minutes to spare who wouldn't mind sharing their thoughts.

Many thanks for reading and many more if you are able to answer - completely understand that everyone's busy. I am happy to update when we've compared answers to see how mental health professionals differ from any answers I receive if anyone has any interest.

The Situation:

(From the perspective of a car driver, imagined or real)

If you were stopped in a parking space to drop someone off and someone pulled up alongside and became confrontational about you being there, got out of their car and started shouting and taking your registration number:

1) How would you feel? 

2) What would you do?

3) Is it unreasonable to feel helpless and upset?

4) How would you 'come down' from that?

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  • Wow. I had no idea so many people would respond, or that this question would be as contentious as it appears to have been. I didn't intend to light a touch paper and then retreat, I was busy at the weekend then it took me a day to read through all the posts that had been written.

    Thanks to everyone who chipped in, I found the responses interesting, challenging and very enlightening. We have all had different journeys and experiences and that's very clear from the diversity of opinions on various types of therapy.

    I certainly don't feel that I need to justify or defend my choices, they're mine and I make them. I have been seeing a CBT person to better learn how to cope with the ever present stress and anxiety I experience. She is not an 'Autism' CBT person but she is smart and listens and challenges me gently whilst helping me to cope better. I chose to do this because I walked out of my job earlier this year and realised that I need to make some changes to my life. CBT started before I got my diagnosis, has continued unchanged despite the unequivocal diagnosis of Aspergers. It seems that people have different ideas about what CBT means. For me it is not TA, nor is it dredging up all of the past. I choose what to bring up or not. The closest explanation of how I understand/experience CBT that I've found is here (hope it's ok to post that link) www.rcpsych.ac.uk/.../5 Blenkiron W2 IC2013.pdf

    I am not naive about the dangerous effects of poorly informed therapists. As a young gay teenager I experienced exactly how understanding mental health services could be - and I wasn't even the one in the service! So I don't underestimate the power of a bad experience to affect future perceptions. However I choose to have an open mind where I can and I can't know if this will help me or not unless I try it. CBT isn't something that happens to you, you use it to do what you want so it can only work as well as you believe it will.

    i wish I could respond to more of the posts individually but right now I'm all out of spoons so I shall instead wish you all a good evening.

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  • Wow. I had no idea so many people would respond, or that this question would be as contentious as it appears to have been. I didn't intend to light a touch paper and then retreat, I was busy at the weekend then it took me a day to read through all the posts that had been written.

    Thanks to everyone who chipped in, I found the responses interesting, challenging and very enlightening. We have all had different journeys and experiences and that's very clear from the diversity of opinions on various types of therapy.

    I certainly don't feel that I need to justify or defend my choices, they're mine and I make them. I have been seeing a CBT person to better learn how to cope with the ever present stress and anxiety I experience. She is not an 'Autism' CBT person but she is smart and listens and challenges me gently whilst helping me to cope better. I chose to do this because I walked out of my job earlier this year and realised that I need to make some changes to my life. CBT started before I got my diagnosis, has continued unchanged despite the unequivocal diagnosis of Aspergers. It seems that people have different ideas about what CBT means. For me it is not TA, nor is it dredging up all of the past. I choose what to bring up or not. The closest explanation of how I understand/experience CBT that I've found is here (hope it's ok to post that link) www.rcpsych.ac.uk/.../5 Blenkiron W2 IC2013.pdf

    I am not naive about the dangerous effects of poorly informed therapists. As a young gay teenager I experienced exactly how understanding mental health services could be - and I wasn't even the one in the service! So I don't underestimate the power of a bad experience to affect future perceptions. However I choose to have an open mind where I can and I can't know if this will help me or not unless I try it. CBT isn't something that happens to you, you use it to do what you want so it can only work as well as you believe it will.

    i wish I could respond to more of the posts individually but right now I'm all out of spoons so I shall instead wish you all a good evening.

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