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I haven't said this in years, but please would you help with my (CBT) homework?

felineaut

I am participating in CBT to help me learn new ways to manage myself in challenging situations. My therapist/practitioner/tutor suggested we each seek answers to questions about a hypothetical scenario. I hope it's ok to post this here, I wondered if there's anyone with a few minutes to spare who wouldn't mind sharing their thoughts.

Many thanks for reading and many more if you are able to answer - completely understand that everyone's busy. I am happy to update when we've compared answers to see how mental health professionals differ from any answers I receive if anyone has any interest.

The Situation:

(From the perspective of a car driver, imagined or real)

If you were stopped in a parking space to drop someone off and someone pulled up alongside and became confrontational about you being there, got out of their car and started shouting and taking your registration number:

1) How would you feel? 

2) What would you do?

3) Is it unreasonable to feel helpless and upset?

4) How would you 'come down' from that?

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  • Hi CC,

    My experience has been practically the same :(

    Yes, I feel like I too have had a (very expensive) lesson in " it's all my fault" along with the accompanying shame and self loathing .  I realised when I spoke to my only friend (NT) and her partner (possibly AS) that they had more insight and help in an hour than those 20 weeks.  They questioned me on why I felt it was my fault and argued to the contrary.  It was a small step forward but I realised that I was wasting my time with the "specialist" as she had never once questioned my logic or said anything that made me question myself.  I realised that by her just listening and accepting what I was saying was not instigating self acceptance in me but convincing me that I must be wrong to feel like this.  My friend said the most inciteful thing to me which made me realise how differently I think to her, she said that she feels so much better talking to someone and getting it off her chest.  I then realised that it doesn't make me feel better and that I need help and guidance and solutions.

    I am angry at myself for wasting thousands of pounds on the specialist with no understanding.  This seems to be such a fundamental difference that she has been unable to grasp despite having a PhD in  Autism.  

    And so, back to square one...

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  • Hi CC,

    My experience has been practically the same :(

    Yes, I feel like I too have had a (very expensive) lesson in " it's all my fault" along with the accompanying shame and self loathing .  I realised when I spoke to my only friend (NT) and her partner (possibly AS) that they had more insight and help in an hour than those 20 weeks.  They questioned me on why I felt it was my fault and argued to the contrary.  It was a small step forward but I realised that I was wasting my time with the "specialist" as she had never once questioned my logic or said anything that made me question myself.  I realised that by her just listening and accepting what I was saying was not instigating self acceptance in me but convincing me that I must be wrong to feel like this.  My friend said the most inciteful thing to me which made me realise how differently I think to her, she said that she feels so much better talking to someone and getting it off her chest.  I then realised that it doesn't make me feel better and that I need help and guidance and solutions.

    I am angry at myself for wasting thousands of pounds on the specialist with no understanding.  This seems to be such a fundamental difference that she has been unable to grasp despite having a PhD in  Autism.  

    And so, back to square one...

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