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I haven't said this in years, but please would you help with my (CBT) homework?

felineaut

I am participating in CBT to help me learn new ways to manage myself in challenging situations. My therapist/practitioner/tutor suggested we each seek answers to questions about a hypothetical scenario. I hope it's ok to post this here, I wondered if there's anyone with a few minutes to spare who wouldn't mind sharing their thoughts.

Many thanks for reading and many more if you are able to answer - completely understand that everyone's busy. I am happy to update when we've compared answers to see how mental health professionals differ from any answers I receive if anyone has any interest.

The Situation:

(From the perspective of a car driver, imagined or real)

If you were stopped in a parking space to drop someone off and someone pulled up alongside and became confrontational about you being there, got out of their car and started shouting and taking your registration number:

1) How would you feel? 

2) What would you do?

3) Is it unreasonable to feel helpless and upset?

4) How would you 'come down' from that?

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  • In response to RCS I have clutched at every straw to help me resolve my difficulties. Be it a gimmick, I did take it seriously at the time. But it didn't cure my undiagnosed autism. What the quack was doing was offering me TA as a way of resolving what he saw as lack of assertiveness in my explanation of my difficulties. Gimmick yes....in that context

    Incidentally I had a bizarre experience today that fits in with the kind of scenario that felineaut introduced at the start.

    I had to climb some steep steps leading to a passageway. But when I got to the top step someone took the immediate space in front and seemed to confront me.

    I said excuse me, and he said "tell me first which way you want to go?"  I said left, and made to pass him. He wanted me to say please.

    It was difficult because he'd got me right at the edge of the top step so though he was smaller he could easily have overbalanced me.

    I just said excuse me again and pushed past. I was aware of irritation behind, and turned around to find he was trying to make a fight of it, so I just kept going and left him to it. It wasn't as if he was intending to go down the steps, he was hanging around.

    Now I'm not sure I handled it right, but equally I would be interested in the CBT approach to finding a solution.

    You get lots of people like that. They see a way of making an issue with someone at a disadvantage, climbing stairs. Or blocking someone in at a parking space and shouting at them (apologies for hijacking felineaut's original posting). What was I supposed to do I wonder.... sob apologies and beg him to let me pass, or kick up a fuss that might have escalated.

    For all I know my random facial expression may not have been helping matters.

    But lets TA/CBT the scenario

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  • In response to RCS I have clutched at every straw to help me resolve my difficulties. Be it a gimmick, I did take it seriously at the time. But it didn't cure my undiagnosed autism. What the quack was doing was offering me TA as a way of resolving what he saw as lack of assertiveness in my explanation of my difficulties. Gimmick yes....in that context

    Incidentally I had a bizarre experience today that fits in with the kind of scenario that felineaut introduced at the start.

    I had to climb some steep steps leading to a passageway. But when I got to the top step someone took the immediate space in front and seemed to confront me.

    I said excuse me, and he said "tell me first which way you want to go?"  I said left, and made to pass him. He wanted me to say please.

    It was difficult because he'd got me right at the edge of the top step so though he was smaller he could easily have overbalanced me.

    I just said excuse me again and pushed past. I was aware of irritation behind, and turned around to find he was trying to make a fight of it, so I just kept going and left him to it. It wasn't as if he was intending to go down the steps, he was hanging around.

    Now I'm not sure I handled it right, but equally I would be interested in the CBT approach to finding a solution.

    You get lots of people like that. They see a way of making an issue with someone at a disadvantage, climbing stairs. Or blocking someone in at a parking space and shouting at them (apologies for hijacking felineaut's original posting). What was I supposed to do I wonder.... sob apologies and beg him to let me pass, or kick up a fuss that might have escalated.

    For all I know my random facial expression may not have been helping matters.

    But lets TA/CBT the scenario

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