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I haven't said this in years, but please would you help with my (CBT) homework?

felineaut

I am participating in CBT to help me learn new ways to manage myself in challenging situations. My therapist/practitioner/tutor suggested we each seek answers to questions about a hypothetical scenario. I hope it's ok to post this here, I wondered if there's anyone with a few minutes to spare who wouldn't mind sharing their thoughts.

Many thanks for reading and many more if you are able to answer - completely understand that everyone's busy. I am happy to update when we've compared answers to see how mental health professionals differ from any answers I receive if anyone has any interest.

The Situation:

(From the perspective of a car driver, imagined or real)

If you were stopped in a parking space to drop someone off and someone pulled up alongside and became confrontational about you being there, got out of their car and started shouting and taking your registration number:

1) How would you feel? 

2) What would you do?

3) Is it unreasonable to feel helpless and upset?

4) How would you 'come down' from that?

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  • I underwent CBT on a one-to-one basis for 3 years. I only have two things to say about it.

    1. Astonishingly, an allegedly qualified psychologist working for the NHS failed, utterly, to spot my autism despite a 3 year realtionship with me and repeated failures to notice that what she said to me, similar to the scenario above, made absolutely no sense to me.

    2. All she achieved was to drag up my past and leave me to dwell on stuff I would really rather have left behind me. She destroyed whatever peace of mind I'd ever managed to scrape together, shattered all of the 'coping' strategies that I'd been able to develop (she constantly told me that my actions and reactions were 'wrong') and blamed ME for REFUSING to adopt the strategies that she suggested.

    Utter crap, totally innapropriate for an AS person, and took me from a coping adult to an utter emotional wreck. And it was my fault for not co-operating.

    This is all true, read it as you will.

    Lastly, in the scenario above, I would be angry and confused as to why one of the unsane ones thought that blocking me into a space that they wanted me to vacate would be logical, when it blatantly isn't. In this situation, I can state categoricaly that I would be overwhelmed by fear and confusion, my adrenalin would be through the roof, with all of the associated physical effects, and I would do anything to get away. I couldn't deal with it, I'd run for my life.

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  • I underwent CBT on a one-to-one basis for 3 years. I only have two things to say about it.

    1. Astonishingly, an allegedly qualified psychologist working for the NHS failed, utterly, to spot my autism despite a 3 year realtionship with me and repeated failures to notice that what she said to me, similar to the scenario above, made absolutely no sense to me.

    2. All she achieved was to drag up my past and leave me to dwell on stuff I would really rather have left behind me. She destroyed whatever peace of mind I'd ever managed to scrape together, shattered all of the 'coping' strategies that I'd been able to develop (she constantly told me that my actions and reactions were 'wrong') and blamed ME for REFUSING to adopt the strategies that she suggested.

    Utter crap, totally innapropriate for an AS person, and took me from a coping adult to an utter emotional wreck. And it was my fault for not co-operating.

    This is all true, read it as you will.

    Lastly, in the scenario above, I would be angry and confused as to why one of the unsane ones thought that blocking me into a space that they wanted me to vacate would be logical, when it blatantly isn't. In this situation, I can state categoricaly that I would be overwhelmed by fear and confusion, my adrenalin would be through the roof, with all of the associated physical effects, and I would do anything to get away. I couldn't deal with it, I'd run for my life.

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