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I want to give up :/

mark123

Right now im working part time, but for me, its hell. For me, its not a stable job. I work odd hours and different days. I feel like I can never plan anything because i'll be called into work.

I've tried to hard applying for jobs but its not getting me anywhere. I can't even do interviews. I know I can work, thats not a problem.
I think people are put off by me in interviews.

I've emailed a few places who help disbaled people get into work. But most of them just give me links on where to look for work or say they can only help with part time jobs.

I feel like im not going to get anywhere in life. I just need a full time job so I can start living, I feel trapped. I don't even feel like an adult.
I love my parents, but I need to move out. I need my own place/space.
My depression is getting worse because of it. 

Is there any place in Essex/London which can help me with this, get me into full time work? 

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  • Hi Mark,

       You haven't said how old you are or what you are interested in doing. Do you have qualifications or experience in a given field?

    The reason I ask is that I had similar problems with work only under different circumstances. I was constantly called into School to collect one or other of my boys, due to illness etc and this exasibated some work difficulties I personally was experiencing 9I'm Aspie also). In addition, I couldn't expect an employer to tolerate frequent unplanned absense.

    In the end I started up my own business from home. The up side of this is that you plan your working time around your family commitments, which is what I do around the care of my boys. For you however, this option might be a useful option in order to move toward the indepence you seek.

    It's tough, i cannot deny that, but if you have reasonable executive function and feel you can manage self-employment, then it may be worth trying. Start slowly and work your way up. If it proves sucessful, you may be able to do the full time job you enjoy. Many like the lady whose link I've supplied, have crafted their job around their interests, but have used other startegies to circumnavigate some of the communication difficulties or social difficulties they have.

    I've attached a link in case you want to asscertain your suitability for this option. It surrounds a females experiences, but her advice is sound for all considering self-employment.

    musingsofanaspie.com/.../

    Another option is to look at the possibility of work support through your local autism hub. It might be worth asking them what support their is in your area. Some areas have social enterprize projects with paid staff members forming the skeleton of the staffing business with the remaining training or volunteering.

    Don't give up Mark, Their is a place for everyone in the working world, it's just that some employers need educating in the gifts that those on the spectrum have to offer. Remember, if the conventional NT world doesn't suit your needs, you need to think outside the box and make your own rules to achieve. So long as it's done right, it's legal and you are realistic about achieving your goals, the only limit is your own imagination. Good Luck 

    Coogy x

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  • Hi Mark,

       You haven't said how old you are or what you are interested in doing. Do you have qualifications or experience in a given field?

    The reason I ask is that I had similar problems with work only under different circumstances. I was constantly called into School to collect one or other of my boys, due to illness etc and this exasibated some work difficulties I personally was experiencing 9I'm Aspie also). In addition, I couldn't expect an employer to tolerate frequent unplanned absense.

    In the end I started up my own business from home. The up side of this is that you plan your working time around your family commitments, which is what I do around the care of my boys. For you however, this option might be a useful option in order to move toward the indepence you seek.

    It's tough, i cannot deny that, but if you have reasonable executive function and feel you can manage self-employment, then it may be worth trying. Start slowly and work your way up. If it proves sucessful, you may be able to do the full time job you enjoy. Many like the lady whose link I've supplied, have crafted their job around their interests, but have used other startegies to circumnavigate some of the communication difficulties or social difficulties they have.

    I've attached a link in case you want to asscertain your suitability for this option. It surrounds a females experiences, but her advice is sound for all considering self-employment.

    musingsofanaspie.com/.../

    Another option is to look at the possibility of work support through your local autism hub. It might be worth asking them what support their is in your area. Some areas have social enterprize projects with paid staff members forming the skeleton of the staffing business with the remaining training or volunteering.

    Don't give up Mark, Their is a place for everyone in the working world, it's just that some employers need educating in the gifts that those on the spectrum have to offer. Remember, if the conventional NT world doesn't suit your needs, you need to think outside the box and make your own rules to achieve. So long as it's done right, it's legal and you are realistic about achieving your goals, the only limit is your own imagination. Good Luck 

    Coogy x

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