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Help Please!! Haircuts!!

NAS16996

Hello everyone! My son, Harvey, is 3 years old and was diagnosed with severe autism, Most things are a daily struggle, one being cutting his hair, its getting so long and can no longer put it off now, If I take him into a hairdressers he freaks out, he has very little understanding of things so bribes or anything like that don't work, does anybody have some handy hints or tips that I could try? Thanks

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  • this might sound shocking . .  sorry

     

    having hair cut can feel incredibly personally invasive

    almost abusive

    for me it can feel like sexual assault

    you wouldnt take your children for a 'brazilian' in a room where there are other people witnessing it and it being given by a professional just because you think their pubic hair looks untidy., while they scream and struggle to escape.( if they had any . . let's pretend here ?)

    Also for me, the sitting in front of a mirror, which the hairdresser looks into at times and I cant escape from without keeping my eyes closed throughout is heartbreaking . . .sheer hell!

     

    i genuinely find it surprising that anyone is surprised that haircuts or nailcutting and  toothbrushing . . .all of these things are a big problem for people/children with sensory issues. We dont see , hear or feel the same as the majority so why treat us the same and expect us to react the same.

    tantamount to abuse . . . sad to say.

     

    Suggestions . . if nails really have to be trimmed . . and I know toe nails do if shoes are to be worn, we used to do it whilst he slept when he was young,

    my son now has long dreads, a little unkempt , a tub of Ben and jerry's and  good dvd distract and provide alternative sensory stimuli which will just about make tidying bearable if he's feeling brave . . .pick your moment and pick your battles.

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  • this might sound shocking . .  sorry

     

    having hair cut can feel incredibly personally invasive

    almost abusive

    for me it can feel like sexual assault

    you wouldnt take your children for a 'brazilian' in a room where there are other people witnessing it and it being given by a professional just because you think their pubic hair looks untidy., while they scream and struggle to escape.( if they had any . . let's pretend here ?)

    Also for me, the sitting in front of a mirror, which the hairdresser looks into at times and I cant escape from without keeping my eyes closed throughout is heartbreaking . . .sheer hell!

     

    i genuinely find it surprising that anyone is surprised that haircuts or nailcutting and  toothbrushing . . .all of these things are a big problem for people/children with sensory issues. We dont see , hear or feel the same as the majority so why treat us the same and expect us to react the same.

    tantamount to abuse . . . sad to say.

     

    Suggestions . . if nails really have to be trimmed . . and I know toe nails do if shoes are to be worn, we used to do it whilst he slept when he was young,

    my son now has long dreads, a little unkempt , a tub of Ben and jerry's and  good dvd distract and provide alternative sensory stimuli which will just about make tidying bearable if he's feeling brave . . .pick your moment and pick your battles.

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