Feeling angry

Trouble with humans is that they are collective socialisers, to which end everyone has to 'pull together'. People who don't are not welcome.

In recent times we are trying to be more tolerant, but it isn't a universal objective (eg Eton public schoolboys don't see it as important, going by the attitudes of the current government, nor did certain German ideologies - or are these one and the same?), and it isn't an absolute.

I'm not saying it is easy - I have burdened myself with deeply entrenched grievances, sense of injustice and anger. But it won't get you anywhere.

Nobody is that sympathetic when someone is disabled - they may make concessions but begrudgingly. Trouble with autism is no-one understands it (it is hardly that well explained) - so people perceive autism as malingering.

You seem to have got a diagnosis lately. The diagnosis provides an opportunity to develop coping strategies. Granted there doesn't seem to be a lot of information out there to explain what coping strategies are; indeed there is a lot of misinformation.

I think you have to accept that social communication will remain difficult (despite all the quacks and tricksters trying to sell cures).

You can however learn the patter for at least formal social communication - watch what people do on television soaps, study groups of people in cafes or on trains. Watch how they commonly give each other cues or openings or pay attention to what others are saying, and try to emulate those you can adopt.

It takes a bit of acting. Actors learn lines and their cues are set by the stage directions. So they aren't reading social cues. You can approach some social situations by just acting out usual sorts of script. Granted you'll be perceived as stiff and inappropriate sometimes, and you will inevitably misread situations.

More informal socialisation depends much more on body language facial expression and other non-vebal clues so you have to accept that gets much harder, so accept you won't find this easy.

BUT, and I'm not for a moment suggesting it is FAIR, you have to try to cope, compensate and bluff your way through.

What the world wont do is accommodate you if you wont try and keep insisting the world is impossible.

I wish though there were more guides to living with autism. It is very "hit and miss", and depends very much on attitude, personality and the severity of the autism and having other conditions such as ADHD or dyslexia etc.

Trouble with humans is that they are collective socialisers, to which end everyone has to 'pull together'. People who don't are not welcome.

In recent times we are trying to be more tolerant, but it isn't a universal objective (eg Eton public schoolboys don't see it as important, going by the attitudes of the current government, nor did certain German ideologies - or are these one and the same?), and it isn't an absolute.

I'm not saying it is easy - I have burdened myself with deeply entrenched grievances, sense of injustice and anger. But it won't get you anywhere.

Nobody is that sympathetic when someone is disabled - they may make concessions but begrudgingly. Trouble with autism is no-one understands it (it is hardly that well explained) - so people perceive autism as malingering.

You seem to have got a diagnosis lately. The diagnosis provides an opportunity to develop coping strategies. Granted there doesn't seem to be a lot of information out there to explain what coping strategies are; indeed there is a lot of misinformation.

I think you have to accept that social communication will remain difficult (despite all the quacks and tricksters trying to sell cures).

You can however learn the patter for at least formal social communication - watch what people do on television soaps, study groups of people in cafes or on trains. Watch how they commonly give each other cues or openings or pay attention to what others are saying, and try to emulate those you can adopt.

It takes a bit of acting. Actors learn lines and their cues are set by the stage directions. So they aren't reading social cues. You can approach some social situations by just acting out usual sorts of script. Granted you'll be perceived as stiff and inappropriate sometimes, and you will inevitably misread situations.

More informal socialisation depends much more on body language facial expression and other non-vebal clues so you have to accept that gets much harder, so accept you won't find this easy.

BUT, and I'm not for a moment suggesting it is FAIR, you have to try to cope, compensate and bluff your way through.

What the world wont do is accommodate you if you wont try and keep insisting the world is impossible.

I wish though there were more guides to living with autism. It is very "hit and miss", and depends very much on attitude, personality and the severity of the autism and having other conditions such as ADHD or dyslexia etc.