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Workplace troubles- could really use some advice

Chana18

It was suggested that I have Aspergers after attending a psychiactric appt for another issue. An initial assesment was done and Im now on the waiting list for a formal diagnosis..

At work Ive been constantly in trouble for saying the wrong things to clients, seeming to be cold or rude or unhelpfull and generally not properly doing some parts of my job (i work in a call centre) .. despite this - im generally good at the telephone part of my job - especially when it comes to speaking languages (although ive realised im usually just mimicing sound patterns and most of the time i dont completely understand what im saying) I seem to fail at the more social / interraction aspects of it..

As soon as the initial diagnosis was made I spoke with my HR Manager- who was less than understanding.. Id already done my own research and realised myself that I get stuck understanding abstract language and indirect instructions ..i also hate loud noises, crowds and need alone time at breaks etc ..

I explained exactly what the condition was and why the Psych thought i might have it and explained that it explained a lot of the behaviours i exhibit.

I  asked if my team leader could just be more direct when speaking to me, use email wherever possible and if my interraction with clients could be limited until i had a formal diagnosis and clear ideas of what help / changes i might need -if any  ..

HR basically complained that there was always something wrong with me and didnt agree to anything ..

Ive now been put on a disciplinary for things like '' being unhelpfull and unapproachable', not behaving the right way on a client meeting and generally '' not doing my job properly'' .. I have a meeting on Friday and have no idea how I go about dealing with things -especially since i find expressing feelings and explaining things out loud really hard .. theres a good chance Im going to loose my job and the whole thing seems like Im being singled out

 im wondering if anyone esle has experienced this and can offer any advice?

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  • Agreed with all the above, especially the last bit about advocacy - having someone with you, what is termed a friend at court.

    I lived through years of these pogroms, if I can use that term - recurring build ups of complaints about my personality defect. What always happened is they fizzled out when challenged. NTs seem unduly sensitive about whether everyone is following the right cues that they notice something is wrong.

    But, and this is the strange thing - as it comes naturally to them they take it for granted - they cannot explain what is not happening. Indeed part of the problem with helping people on the spectrum is that NTs don't seem to properly understand why there's a problem.

    And that's the crux of the matter. They will be hard put to provide meaningful evidence. Giving a list of times you weren't quite right. What actally is proof of being unhelpful or unapproachable? They might perceive it, but what does it amount to on paper? Just a gut feeling?

    You cannot be fired on hearsay evidence - well they may try. They are supposed to show how you can improve. Just saying they don't like you but "cannot put a finger on it" will not make them look good. So standing your ground is important.

    I suspect they are worried disabled status will create problems so they want an excuse to get rid of you before your diagnosis comes through. But they have to provide evidence, and you have a right to see it.

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  • Agreed with all the above, especially the last bit about advocacy - having someone with you, what is termed a friend at court.

    I lived through years of these pogroms, if I can use that term - recurring build ups of complaints about my personality defect. What always happened is they fizzled out when challenged. NTs seem unduly sensitive about whether everyone is following the right cues that they notice something is wrong.

    But, and this is the strange thing - as it comes naturally to them they take it for granted - they cannot explain what is not happening. Indeed part of the problem with helping people on the spectrum is that NTs don't seem to properly understand why there's a problem.

    And that's the crux of the matter. They will be hard put to provide meaningful evidence. Giving a list of times you weren't quite right. What actally is proof of being unhelpful or unapproachable? They might perceive it, but what does it amount to on paper? Just a gut feeling?

    You cannot be fired on hearsay evidence - well they may try. They are supposed to show how you can improve. Just saying they don't like you but "cannot put a finger on it" will not make them look good. So standing your ground is important.

    I suspect they are worried disabled status will create problems so they want an excuse to get rid of you before your diagnosis comes through. But they have to provide evidence, and you have a right to see it.

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