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Do people really understand?

ethan01

Morning all, hope all is well.

Do you ever wonder sometimes, on if, others really know what having autism is like? 

I struggle with communication and interaction with others, i hardly talk to anyone, apart from my Mum. My Grandparents, try to talk to me, but when i dont show that i'm interested, they start screaming and shouting at me, i dont think they know, how hard it feels, i'm wanting to talk and communicate to more people, but for me, thats easier said than done.

I think differently towards others, as my school examinations are getting closer, i dont seem to be getting hardly any support of my family, maybe its because i find it hard to talk to them and they are just sort of giving up?

Does anyone else feel like this?

Because I have high career plans in life (which is good:)) because i find it hard to communicate, my mum, grandma, sort of put me down, saying things like i will never reach my career, i dont talk to anyone?

That really annoyes me, and sometimes, they see that i'm getting annoyed, but dont do anything about it, i manage to calm myself down.

Thing is, i dont know if its just me? does anyone else understand where i'm coming from?

  • I have found that only a few people are close to really understanding, and even then, their understanding can never be total because the Autistic experience is so unique. Sometimes people attempt to make comparisons because the 'Neurotypical' Theory of Mind mechanism is so strong, but they can only compare based upon their own experiences. So they might say that 'everyone puts on an act in public', which might be true, but the reasons for doing so and the effort involved can be very different to an Autistic person's fundamental alienation and consequent mental fatigue. Comments like this implicitly tell the Autistic person that they are over-reacting, that they do not experience real difficulties, and, as such, the comment is offensive. Genuine understanding, which is very  rare, would meet the Autistic person on their own terms, and would help the person deal with the challenges of living with Autism.