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Daydreaming

Bird

Hi

My son is 15 years old, was diagnosed with High Functioning autism. He attends mainstream school with an autism resource base. He is doing well with his studies but he has a daydreaming issue.

He doesn't daydream at school but when he is at home doing homework or revising for tests he daydreams a lot. It also happens when he does other things e.g. brushing his teeth, having a shower, just after waking up etc. Due to daydreaming he usually takes 50 minutes to have a shower and get dressed (if he doesn't daydream much he can do it in 30 minutes).

As a result of this he doesn't have time to do the things that he enjoys or socialise with his friends. It also affects the time he goes to bed. Most of the time he has at least 1 test to revise for and homework. This makes him go to bed at 11:45pm on average. On weekdays he gets up at 7:00am to go to school. This means he only gets about 7 hours of sleep.

Could anyone give us advice to help with this problem please? Many thanks in advance.

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  • Hi there,

    Could I ask, do you have a rough idea of what it is your son spends so much time day dreaming about? Have you asked him!?

    As an adult with Aspergers I just thought I would weigh in here and ask this, as well as explaining that I tend to 'zone out' a lot or day dream as some people say.

    Personally I think it could be that your son is either thinking about his interests/hobbies, avoiding reality as it can be stressful to think about, or maybe something I tend to do - trying to work out the answers to things that there are no answers for example... Is there a god, what happens after you die, what exists before birth etc... These sort of thoughts can circulate as there will never be an answer!

    I would say if he has a playstation, xbox or a form of gaming console, that limiting the time spent on this would help somewhat! Perhaps you could ask him to write the things he is daydreaming about, this may help I am not sure.

    I cant say that myself and your son are the same because we are on the AS... but thought it wouldnt hurt to ask questions and share, its nice to see a concerned parent and I hope you get the answers your after.

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  • Hi there,

    Could I ask, do you have a rough idea of what it is your son spends so much time day dreaming about? Have you asked him!?

    As an adult with Aspergers I just thought I would weigh in here and ask this, as well as explaining that I tend to 'zone out' a lot or day dream as some people say.

    Personally I think it could be that your son is either thinking about his interests/hobbies, avoiding reality as it can be stressful to think about, or maybe something I tend to do - trying to work out the answers to things that there are no answers for example... Is there a god, what happens after you die, what exists before birth etc... These sort of thoughts can circulate as there will never be an answer!

    I would say if he has a playstation, xbox or a form of gaming console, that limiting the time spent on this would help somewhat! Perhaps you could ask him to write the things he is daydreaming about, this may help I am not sure.

    I cant say that myself and your son are the same because we are on the AS... but thought it wouldnt hurt to ask questions and share, its nice to see a concerned parent and I hope you get the answers your after.

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