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Is there such a thing as a Neurotypical?

yellow sunflower

Just popping back in,

Hi,

Have been having a long think..... i find that people get upset and segregated by this term...Neurotypicals. But i was wondering is there such a thing as a neurotypical?

People i would deam as a neurotypical, i find tend to be irrational optimists, even irritating optimists and just have cognitive empathy, and persue  hobbies or being sociable to an obsession, and when they do socialise, they just play the game of public self and  asking how other people are, so they don't have to talk about themselves- so how are people i would have deemd an NT, an NT at all, if they display the above?

Other people without aspergers can be anorexic, be worriers, anxious, have mental health probs, be controlling, stuffy, grieving, stressed, the list is endless of the different problems, people without aspergers can have, so how is that Neurotypical?

I also get offended by people labling us as an Aspie. And get very offended by people obsessing about our lack of communication skills, when 3/4 of the world,whom don't have aspergers, have communication probs too.

Empathy- if people have personal problems/relationship problems/ housing and social problems-the last thing in the world they feel like doing, is being empathetic. And if somebody is causing problems, then the person on the recieving end isn't going to be feeling empathetic. So why are we being picked on for not being empathetic, when it may just depend on what problems we are in the middle of? Also, i've discovered that not everybody in the world, is actually a people person anyway, so why do we get picked on for not always being people people?

  • usually, if i see people that cause me alot of aspergers diificulties- i.e. my traits to flare up, and in turn i get ill, i just don't see them anymore.

     Thank-you for the good advice of how to think about myself e.t.c

  • Former Member
    Former Member

    So, we have to learn to cope with people who we can't fathom. I think you can make an effort to be more forgiving and tolerant of other people and also be more tolerant and forgiving of yourself.

    Does it help if you try and think of yourself as a slightly delicate and temperamental thing that needs to be operated with extra care? i.e. think of how you can get the best out of yourself by treating yourself with the care and allowance that you might hope to get from someone else.

    I've been learning to identify what mood I am in and then, if I think I'm in a grouchy mood for example, I'll hold back and expose myself to fewer challenges and back away rather than engaging with a challenging person. Othertimes, I'll be more outgoing and take more risks.

  • Just deleted this particular reply, because i worry about the fact that the whole world can read my personal info. And that it could subject me to unkindness/bullying from people that don't have aspergers 

  • Former Member
    Former Member

    I don't know how much variation between scores happens. I expect that mood will play a part. My score is consistently around 43! I got some colleagues from work to do the test and a couple of people scored the same as you but they don't appear to have any issues with normal life - I would classify them as on the spectrum as I can spot some things they do but it isn't enough to get them into trouble or to have caused depression or anxiety etc. I guess that lots of things go into determining whether you have a severe enough problem to need treatment/special provision.

    One thing that has happened to me is that my encounters with other aspies have been problematic in the past. (i.e. before I was diagnosed) I think this will be less of a problem as I am now much more aware of how I behave and of other peoples behaviour. I've become a lot more tolerant of diversity and generally have lower expectations of people than I had before. I think I probably expected perfection from other people and this turns out to be hopelessly unreasonable!

  • P.S due to seeing Marjorie ?195 recomend Tania Marshell, i googled her and went on her web. So if any female, isn't sure if they have aspergers, i would recomend visiting her web- thank-u marjorie.

    I once in a while, decide to re-do the aspergers test, and was astounded to see how severely my score fluctuates. I go from 33, right down to around 25. And up and down. With females, does this depend on mood, stresses in life, what type of personalitites they come across? Parent's e.t.c?And if other people have problems too, it can cause the person with aspergers mild problems or severe problems?

  • P.S due to seeing Marjorie ?195 recomend Tania Marshell, i googled her and went on her web. So if any female, isn't sure if they have aspergers, i would recomend visiting her web- thank-u marjorie.

    I once in a while, decide to re-do the aspergers test, and was astounded to see how severely my score fluctuates. I go from 33, right down to around 25. And up and down. With females, does this depend on mood, stresses in life, what type of personalitites they come across? Parent's e.t.c?And if other people have problems too, it can cause the person with aspergers mild problems or severe problems?

  • Former Member
    Former Member

    There is a lot of diversity between human psychological types and all of those different types behave differently, with different moods, at different times according to what's happened to them and what they fancy doing at that point in time.

    ASD people have particular psychological traits that are distinct and problematic enough for us to be identified as a group and for us to warrant having a diagnosis and for us to get special treatment and to be protected by specific legal provisions. Yes other people have communication problems but our communication difficulties follow particular patterns and are profound enough for it to cause frequent friction and conflict and misunderstandings that are severe enough for them to require some sort of action.

    Not everything we do can be attributed or blamed on our autism, we also have different moods and not all of our behaviour is controlled by our autism - we have particular traits or behaviours but we have other traits and abilities that are nothing to do with autism.

    Does that help? I suspect that we all have to grapple with what the ASD means and what it is to be NT.