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Cyberbullying

Disordergirl

On Facebook on a post about autism and how it doesn't need to be cured and it makes autistic individuals who they are, which I believe is very true and 74 people liked my comment. So I commented and stated saying I need to be cured makes me a second class citizen and that aspergers makes who I am and has helped me throughout life and that we should end discrimination. This guy replied and said I was wrong it doesn't make me who I am and that it is just a deficit on social interaction that needs to be cured, dunno where he got that information from because it's different from what I was told by every professional I've met; he also said that saying it makes me who I am makes me egotistical. So I disagreed reasonably and said that I had therapy and am at uni and why do I need a pill when I have strategies and that it's more complex than he thinks, then another women agreed with me. Then he stated that unless you wanna be homeless and not speak then anyone would want a pill, then he said maybe I had that to the woman, talking about me like a science experiment. Because I hate language like that I blocked him (I wasn't friends with him anyway) and I didn't want to get in a bottomless debate as I was working and those sorts of things are too much for me. Then he commented again as he wasn't completely blocked and said "right" to start with, then he said he was starting to take my side but then after he found I blocked him said I was egotistical and socially stupid yada yada yada (bullying language), so I reported him for harassing me, then I typed out a message saying I was scared, he's egotistical too and it wasn't typed properly but I tried to say he was saying something different from most professionals I know said, it wasn't gramatically correct as I was literally shaking. This was in a uni library too, so I sobbed and a kind guy offered (still have some faith in humanity), then I retreated for a bit not reading his following comments, but I read his last comment saying block this account if it makes you feel better, I wouldn't want to get in the way of your therapy (despite the fact that was doing a dissertation, not therapy at the time). But I wonder where he pulled this simple deficit idea from. I'm glad I blocked him and I can no longer see his comments and I'm glad I put myself out there as my comment got the most likes, I dunno what the reply where it all happened looks like now for those who haven't blocked him and a nice looking girl replied later who was on the mildly on spectrum said she agreed and told me about herself and how she's loves learning and is highly logical, which made me feel better. I respect everybody has an opinion, but bottomless facebook debates can get too much at times and go no where and freedom of speech doesn't permit people to bully, especially vunerable people. I don't know if I shouldn't had replied or had blocked him later, but I just have so much anger the way people on the spectrum are seen and spoken about, I hate people that talk about us who don't get the social model of disability, that I emotionally blocked him at that point. What should I do next time, was he just an attention seeking troll? 

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  • Hi Disordergirl,  Dr3am3r and longman.

    Disordergirl i think you do wright to not let some troll put you off Facebook and it seems like you have a balenced view of of this, i suppose aslong as you can justifiy it in your mind and are able feel content that there is ignorant, cheeky and arrogant trolls out there you'll manage fine with it.

    Has studying sociology given you a better understanding of NT's? I thought of studing Psychology at one point but wrightly indentified that despite the fact i could build up a good picture in my mind of behaviour logically, i wouldn't be able to empathise with people's emotions and i couldn't detemaine to what degree of importance that was in that area.

    I've seen Aspergers been described as a disease which seems unduly harsh i'm not even sure 'condition' is the wright way to decsribe it. I've done a year and a half as a Taxi driver, done alot of miles and been to alot of different Airports and Cities in the 8 seater bus i use to drive. I never could understand even driving my own Car the amount of poor driving that i would see each time i drove. Prehaps Scientists should develope a tablet for NT's to help reduce aggression on the road and lack of ability to understand the potential consequences of reckless behaviour through poor concentration and a lack of responsability on the roads? I always usto follow the speed limits, rules of the road and always left a big enough space between myself and the car in front though i seemed to always be having to drop back to accomadate people weaving.

    I think unless the difference in people with autism is taught in school in a proper class which would no doubt be taught as a disabled awearness course in school 'which i think should go wright through secondary school' not much will change for the future of understanding. There are so many floors with NT's, for example that even though wrong its seems almost impossable 'to me' that the majoraty of NT's even with any sort of intellect will have any hunger to create a greater understanding of people on the autistic spectrum seems unlikely 'for now atleast'.

    In what i have observed with NT's 'all in my opinion of course' is that the majority seem to rely on looking good and trying to impress, even if this is false and people live beyond there means, getting a Merc on finance to keep up with the joneses even to the extent cost is not realistic to these people it still seems important.

    I've seen many in the Gym in the past, men on there Phones talking loudly so eveyone notices them yet there training and technique is poor, but that doesn't matter because they look good and are noticed.

    I personally believe that one of the main reason the people on the spectrum have not reached a more noticble standing and an elevated view in the mind of society is because money means less and feeling being happy and providing happiness to family is more important than money. 

    If anyone disagrees or has a different opinion please post it i always like to learn.

    Many thanks and kind reguards Steven..

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  • Hi Disordergirl,  Dr3am3r and longman.

    Disordergirl i think you do wright to not let some troll put you off Facebook and it seems like you have a balenced view of of this, i suppose aslong as you can justifiy it in your mind and are able feel content that there is ignorant, cheeky and arrogant trolls out there you'll manage fine with it.

    Has studying sociology given you a better understanding of NT's? I thought of studing Psychology at one point but wrightly indentified that despite the fact i could build up a good picture in my mind of behaviour logically, i wouldn't be able to empathise with people's emotions and i couldn't detemaine to what degree of importance that was in that area.

    I've seen Aspergers been described as a disease which seems unduly harsh i'm not even sure 'condition' is the wright way to decsribe it. I've done a year and a half as a Taxi driver, done alot of miles and been to alot of different Airports and Cities in the 8 seater bus i use to drive. I never could understand even driving my own Car the amount of poor driving that i would see each time i drove. Prehaps Scientists should develope a tablet for NT's to help reduce aggression on the road and lack of ability to understand the potential consequences of reckless behaviour through poor concentration and a lack of responsability on the roads? I always usto follow the speed limits, rules of the road and always left a big enough space between myself and the car in front though i seemed to always be having to drop back to accomadate people weaving.

    I think unless the difference in people with autism is taught in school in a proper class which would no doubt be taught as a disabled awearness course in school 'which i think should go wright through secondary school' not much will change for the future of understanding. There are so many floors with NT's, for example that even though wrong its seems almost impossable 'to me' that the majoraty of NT's even with any sort of intellect will have any hunger to create a greater understanding of people on the autistic spectrum seems unlikely 'for now atleast'.

    In what i have observed with NT's 'all in my opinion of course' is that the majority seem to rely on looking good and trying to impress, even if this is false and people live beyond there means, getting a Merc on finance to keep up with the joneses even to the extent cost is not realistic to these people it still seems important.

    I've seen many in the Gym in the past, men on there Phones talking loudly so eveyone notices them yet there training and technique is poor, but that doesn't matter because they look good and are noticed.

    I personally believe that one of the main reason the people on the spectrum have not reached a more noticble standing and an elevated view in the mind of society is because money means less and feeling being happy and providing happiness to family is more important than money. 

    If anyone disagrees or has a different opinion please post it i always like to learn.

    Many thanks and kind reguards Steven..

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