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The worlds against me.

Justme

We are having loads of issues with my son when he can't do somthing for instant if he can't jump form one ledge to another in a game he gets really frustrated and shouts and screms that its all the games fault there pushing him off or moving the ledge ect. Does anyone have any advice of dealing with this?

  • My son's the same and had a really tough time on Friday because his 'team' at school didn't win the weekly prize. He was livid..and he's the same with computers games. We do use more non competitive PC related activities now, such as Education City or Reading Eggs.

    Both need payment but you can usually have a free trial of both to see if it is any good to your child. They really help enhance any school work and our children think they are 'just playing' and enjoy gaining 'stars' and printing off certificates for their achievements.

    It's a relief to see it's not just our family who have these issues (my partner is still the same himself at 39) .

    I hope you can find a solution to suit you.

    Kind regards

    Oatcakes

  • I understand your frustration but as someone with AS and I have a son and step daughter both with ASD. I remember the feeling of total absorbtion as a child and the constant need to win and instantly understand how to do something. Life rarely lives up to expectation and to those of us on the spectrum that is hard to deal with. As far as blaming everyone else that is entirely common as seeing the bigger picture and our part in it is very hard. 

    James

  • Sorry, meant to say, we get the "fault" and "blame" thing too.  More so when he is stressed and feeling rubbish about himself and he can overcome it mostly when he is more relaxed and confident in himself.

    Take care

  • Hi

    I can relate to this, as I am sure many will, particularly with computer/console games.  They can be a great source of frustration and addiction for us.  It takes a lot of hard work to control, perseverence on our part and avoid vulnerable times i.e. late afternoon/evening.

    It is difficult, as when school is really hard, it was only the computer he wanted to interact with when he got in, and it could make him very frustrated and angry or elated when he won.

    When it has got out of hand, we have removed access by taking the wireless connector but it does mean the whole family going through the subsequent melt down.  We avoid buying any new games for the Wii now as the overspill of excitement and anticipation and obsession to get to the end will affect his temprament and he will barely sleep and nag every 2 seconds to get on there, despite us not giving in.  All very tiring.

    More recently he has become more interested in designing lego and creating robots on the internet which is much better and more positive.  Maybe this is worth a shot.  Do a bit of research into design sites based around his interests and age level.

    A fun educational game site which you may have heard of is education city, although you do have to pay.  Both my kids enjoyed this and praises their achievements with gold stars.

    Hope that helps

    Good luck