Not sure how to take a joke

Today my  therapist joked at me. I was talking to her about a previous obsession with the actress Kate Winslet and how unfortunately I could not study Winslet at University or I would have done this instead of my History degree. The therapist then said, 'oh, I am sure you can study her these days, there are courses that exist where you can study Winslet'. I thought this was a bit strange, but I believed what she said because I had no reason to believe she was not stating a fact. She did laugh as she said it, bit it was not obvious to me that this was a joke until she said, 'no, I was joking, you cannot study Winslet'.

I feel unsettled and anxious by the fact my therapist told a joke, and I don't know whether she was being nice or whether she was trying to test my reaction? She knows I am autistic, and in fact she specialises in autism.

Should I let her know that these sort of jokes irritate me? The problem is that I am not sure why it bothers me so much and I do not want to be seen as someone without a sense of humour, but I do not understand why people need to 'joke' like this - I did not think it was funny so what was the point?

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  • I think she was being ironic. There are some very trivial things studied these days. My daughter studied the Beatles, during her university course. Perhaps it is not as trivial as I think.Smile

    I would have taken it literally too. You will encounter this everywhere in life. Don't feel that you are in any way inferior because you believe what people say.

    She probably accepts that this is one aspect of you, in a non judgemental way. You can also learn to accept that this is you,, in a non judgemental way.

    You can also learn from it, that you can be taken in, and be wary of fraudsters, who may try to take advantage.

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  • I think she was being ironic. There are some very trivial things studied these days. My daughter studied the Beatles, during her university course. Perhaps it is not as trivial as I think.Smile

    I would have taken it literally too. You will encounter this everywhere in life. Don't feel that you are in any way inferior because you believe what people say.

    She probably accepts that this is one aspect of you, in a non judgemental way. You can also learn to accept that this is you,, in a non judgemental way.

    You can also learn from it, that you can be taken in, and be wary of fraudsters, who may try to take advantage.

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