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I'm a slob...

manb91uk

Hi, I'm a 23 year-old man who was diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome at 12. I've manged to get along to the point where I can function more-or-less seamlessly in society; I can hold down a steady job, cultivate friendships, live independently and have managed to graduate university twice... Obtaining a Bachelors in Drama and a Masters in Creative Writing.

Throughout the enrity of my life, there has always been one thing I can't seem to get a handle on... Tidying! My bedrooms were always a mess, my dorm was a mess, my shared house was a mess (to the point where I eventually moved out because it was causing too much of a problem) and now I'm staying at my mother's for a short while and I can't seem to stop the messes from piling up...

It's like I can't even see it... Like the crap on the floor doesn't penetrate my awareness, or the fact that there are pots in the sink or bits of food on the cooker or splatters on the wall just don't occur to me.

Could this be down to my autsitc lack of perception? Is there ANYTHING I can do to (literally) clean my act up and be more mindful of the things I'm inadvertently leaving behind?

Does anyone else have the same, or a similar problem? It's causing massive wedges between me and other people and I f*cking hate it!

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  • Pandoren said:

    My college room was very tidy and I was bothered about keeping it that way. I haven't had such motivation with my home bedroom, which is an absolute pigsty. There are clothes in piles, empty bottles, bits of food that have been there weeks, a litter tray that has also been here a month that hasn't been cleaned out yet, and while I'm well aware that my room is a hideous mess, I can't gather up enough care to do anything about it. Every once in a blue moon I'll clean it up and then instantly set about making it a mess again.

    I could have written this, literally word for word, and additionally I rain bits of tobacco and papers. I think its because largely we dont have people in our personal space (colledge dorms are v public) so if its comfortable for us then who cares what another might think should they happen to see it.

    I think the ideal solution to the OPs issue is to secure unshared living space.

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  • Pandoren said:

    My college room was very tidy and I was bothered about keeping it that way. I haven't had such motivation with my home bedroom, which is an absolute pigsty. There are clothes in piles, empty bottles, bits of food that have been there weeks, a litter tray that has also been here a month that hasn't been cleaned out yet, and while I'm well aware that my room is a hideous mess, I can't gather up enough care to do anything about it. Every once in a blue moon I'll clean it up and then instantly set about making it a mess again.

    I could have written this, literally word for word, and additionally I rain bits of tobacco and papers. I think its because largely we dont have people in our personal space (colledge dorms are v public) so if its comfortable for us then who cares what another might think should they happen to see it.

    I think the ideal solution to the OPs issue is to secure unshared living space.

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