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Faces

Marjorie195

I had a reply from Aoch re faces, and just tought I would answer as a new post.

I have difficulty with faces. One of my kids had a friend whose mother, I was totally unable to recognise. To make matters worse, my husband played squash against her. I never recognise her in the street, and I have heard that she thinks me incredably rude. Some faces are easier to remember than others. This problem can affect me when watching tv. Sometimes, I have difficulty disdinguishing characters in a program. I have to ask other people which person is on screen at the moment. I just give up on programs like that, too much like hard work.

I have read that some asd people have prognoposia (something like that). I think I may have a mild problem with that. I am realising that these things are more subtle than the books suggest.

I wonder if this affects our ability to read faces. Some are perhaps more readable than others. 

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  • I don't think it is down to not looking at people. I have instances of making a real effort to remember a particular person, I have to meet later, and really worrying that I won't. If in doubt, I have to approach carefully, and hope they show signs of recognising me. 

    There are certain people I meet locally whom I recognise from the dog they walk, rather than themselves. I'm scuppered if the dog dies.

    I have taken to telling people I know reasonably well, that I get preocupied when out, and they should give me a prod as they pass to wake me up.

    I really like knowing odd people who are 6 foot six, or have a wart on their nose.Laughing Seriously though some faces are easier than others. Some people I just don't recognise at all, some I confuse but many are fine. It's not reading the face, I have a problem with in this instance, it's more remembering what a person looks like.

    PS Laddo, would you necessarily know if there were a few people you were not remembering? I am a bit bogged down in the idea that so many aspie traits are to do with what we miss. So if you have missed something, how do you know you have unless someone points it out. NT people are way to "polite" to tell us we got something wrong, they tend to drift away and avoid us. Frown

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  • I don't think it is down to not looking at people. I have instances of making a real effort to remember a particular person, I have to meet later, and really worrying that I won't. If in doubt, I have to approach carefully, and hope they show signs of recognising me. 

    There are certain people I meet locally whom I recognise from the dog they walk, rather than themselves. I'm scuppered if the dog dies.

    I have taken to telling people I know reasonably well, that I get preocupied when out, and they should give me a prod as they pass to wake me up.

    I really like knowing odd people who are 6 foot six, or have a wart on their nose.Laughing Seriously though some faces are easier than others. Some people I just don't recognise at all, some I confuse but many are fine. It's not reading the face, I have a problem with in this instance, it's more remembering what a person looks like.

    PS Laddo, would you necessarily know if there were a few people you were not remembering? I am a bit bogged down in the idea that so many aspie traits are to do with what we miss. So if you have missed something, how do you know you have unless someone points it out. NT people are way to "polite" to tell us we got something wrong, they tend to drift away and avoid us. Frown

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