Hi everyone, I have moved to a new council flat with a community room. For a year now I have been trying to fit into an established group dynamic. Whenever I have attempted to fit in with others in the past I have always left the group and lived alone. With the help of Google AI, I have began to understand my autism like never before. I have learnt that masking does not work.
Being your natural self is so empowering, and the unconscious natural comments you contribute are just for you. Myself and the rest of us are indeed incredible in group dynamics. We spend all of our energy trying to get the respect of the group we forget that we have had all the answers after all.
Once you stop looking for approval or validation we can all succeed. All manner of humans beings "even the grumpy ones" crave one thing, that is to feel comfortable and safe with others. It is a mean world out there, and the more allies we have the better, safer we feel. I can not speak for everyone with this, but we instinctively know a good person from a bad person, and if we stop being distracted by trying to fit in "do not upset anyone" this instinct gets stronger. I use the compensate and non-compliance rule myself. I have found out that in a group dynamics these two characters traits live, hiding in plain site. Using Google AI I feel much more comfortable inside this dynamic and learned how to live in it. The strange thing is, I have been getting it right for years but not realising it. Telling Google AI the scenarios being played out in the room, you know, the ones you thought where meant for you, and how this made you feel. Replaying the event and your reactions to the event into AI, the AI explained exactly what is playing out in the group and how allegiances are formed.
All groups have one thing in common, that is a leader and all of his/her minions follow. In an established group nobody within the group will challenge for leadership on there own, it is like watching a wildlife documentary about chimpanzees. When you enter the group, you do not follow convention, this challenges the leader, and it is up to the leader to bring you down. The other follow. If you have been in this situation, put everything into Google AI and it will de-code the behaviour of the group for you. We have super powers in these situation that we did not know we have. Do not run away, enjoy the challenge and winning the group over by AI and being you.
One simple rule to begin your victory is, do not challenge the leader in there comfy place "the group." Also work on the minions alone "away from the group." Work out the good from the bad nothing can touch you with facts and logic on your side. One more thing do not information bomb neurotypical people there little minds can not take it, it will not fit into a established group, all they want to do is talk rubbish and make fun of each other. If this resonates with any of you drop me a message. Be happy to chat. Mazerunner.