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noise overload

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Does anyone have any ideas on coping with noisy situations.  I find being in a place where there are lots of conversations extremely difficult, its like everybodys conversation is going on in my head.  I try to focus on something like a game on my phone but The many conversations are all going on  I cant get away from it. I end up leaving and then I am on my own again and I feel so lonely 

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  • I've commented on this issue on another thread about "hearing every noise" but I share the difficulty with multiple conversations and noisy pubs.

    When you need to go to places because the people you want to be with chose them, it is likely you will feel it means not going. People who are not on the spectrum seem to thrive in such environments and are not excited by quiet venues. So it can be asking a lot to restrict your options for friendship to people who like quiet locations.

    The only thing I can offer is I to try to analyse environments by going on another occasion and exploring the sounds around you on your own. I don't mean aversion therapy, I mean find out what elements of the noisy environment are worse, and are there quieter parts of that environment.

    If you think about it nowadays there's maybe one person in a group who  has to go outside for a smoke. You have an equal right to ask your friends to allow you some time out, in a quieter part of that location, or outside, and one of them might join you to keep you company for a while. That way you get some recovery time that helps you plunge in for another dose of complex noise.

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  • I've commented on this issue on another thread about "hearing every noise" but I share the difficulty with multiple conversations and noisy pubs.

    When you need to go to places because the people you want to be with chose them, it is likely you will feel it means not going. People who are not on the spectrum seem to thrive in such environments and are not excited by quiet venues. So it can be asking a lot to restrict your options for friendship to people who like quiet locations.

    The only thing I can offer is I to try to analyse environments by going on another occasion and exploring the sounds around you on your own. I don't mean aversion therapy, I mean find out what elements of the noisy environment are worse, and are there quieter parts of that environment.

    If you think about it nowadays there's maybe one person in a group who  has to go outside for a smoke. You have an equal right to ask your friends to allow you some time out, in a quieter part of that location, or outside, and one of them might join you to keep you company for a while. That way you get some recovery time that helps you plunge in for another dose of complex noise.

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