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Forgiveness

Kellyli

I understand very well the concept of asking for forgiveness when you have done something wrong or someone tells you that you have hurt them... but I have a lot of discomfort in saying sorry without knowing why I am apologizing... and I have the impression that it irritates the people around me. I explain that in order to sincerely apologize and not do it again, I need to know precisely why I am doing it... otherwise I apologize without even knowing why I am apologizing... But it's the same thing again and again...it's ridiculous.... I have the impression that they believe that I ask why to be sure if it's worth it for me to ask for forgiveness for it... but that's never the case.... if someone tells me that I hurt them I'll always ask for forgiveness.... but I find it useless to ask for forgiveness without even knowing what I did.... and not to be able to apologize in an appropriate way for the situation....am I alone? What do you do when it happens? I don't want to be in conflict with anyone but saying sorry without even knowing why I am sorry seems stupid and very not sincere...

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  • It must be very confusing and feel a bit like gas lightiing. I agree it's hard to apologise, and change what you are apparently doing wrong without knowing what it is you are supposed to have done wrong! Is this members of your family? The only thing I can think of is to pre-empt them? At first meeting ask them to politely point out what they belive you have done wrong at the time so you can address it them and kknow what they are talking about. It sounds very confusing. Do you definitely think you have done wrong, or could these people be taking advantage?

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  • It must be very confusing and feel a bit like gas lightiing. I agree it's hard to apologise, and change what you are apparently doing wrong without knowing what it is you are supposed to have done wrong! Is this members of your family? The only thing I can think of is to pre-empt them? At first meeting ask them to politely point out what they belive you have done wrong at the time so you can address it them and kknow what they are talking about. It sounds very confusing. Do you definitely think you have done wrong, or could these people be taking advantage?

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