• Replies 51 replies
  • Subscribers 93 subscribers
  • Views 1786 views
  • Users 0 members are here
Options
Related
Hints and tips
  • To quote someone's message, first select/highlight the relevant text, and then use the Quote button that appears
  • To "mention" someone, type @ followed by the start of the forum name, and choose from the list; that person will get a notification of being mentioned

Christmas!

ChrisRuthPeggy

How does anyone cope with Christmas and New Year social expectations?  Although I have very few friends, there's the obligation to buy presents which seems to have become swapping boxes of chocolates, chocolate biscuits or bottles of something.  Not forgetting the 'unwanted/unneeded' gifts.  Christmas cards to people you don't 'know'.

Fortunately (or not) we don't have any extended family who we feel obliged to invite for Christmas dinner - just as well as cooking is just not my thing!!

Now, I face a dilemma - hubs is a social animal which goes against the grain of us AuDHD'ers.  Another, sort of, fortunate thing is that we have a 'holiday lodge' on an Isle of Wight holiday park, so we leg it down there.  Yes, parties, but somehow the 'friends' we have down there are few and far between, plus they're not neighbours and seldom see them, so when I make a complete idiot of myself it's not as bad as being at home.  I cope by having too many bevvies and spending all my time on the dance floor.  I know they think I'm crazy down there, so being crazy and old kinda lets me get away with it - well that's what I keep trying to tell myself!

What do you do?

XX

Parents

  • I have thought a bit more about Christmas and what I like and don't like and I think the main thing about it that I don't like is the fuss. Adverts and stuff in shops at the end of October. People already asking me about what my plans are etc. Why do we need to do this now? It should be perfectly easy to prepare for Christmas in a couple of weeks so I don't feel the need to even think about it until early December. If it weren't for all the noise about it, it wouldn't even enter my head until then. That's the main thing that ruins what should be a perfectly pleasant time to enjoy a break from work, some nice food, seeing family and a few thoughtful presents. Instead we have to endure a two month circus about it. I just wish everyone would chill out about stuff and not get so get up about things being "perfect", wasting money and resources on tat presents that nobody wants. Everything is now available as an advent calendar: coffee, gin, whiskey, beer etc. The planet is dying and we keep on ramping up the consumerism!

Reply

  • I have thought a bit more about Christmas and what I like and don't like and I think the main thing about it that I don't like is the fuss. Adverts and stuff in shops at the end of October. People already asking me about what my plans are etc. Why do we need to do this now? It should be perfectly easy to prepare for Christmas in a couple of weeks so I don't feel the need to even think about it until early December. If it weren't for all the noise about it, it wouldn't even enter my head until then. That's the main thing that ruins what should be a perfectly pleasant time to enjoy a break from work, some nice food, seeing family and a few thoughtful presents. Instead we have to endure a two month circus about it. I just wish everyone would chill out about stuff and not get so get up about things being "perfect", wasting money and resources on tat presents that nobody wants. Everything is now available as an advent calendar: coffee, gin, whiskey, beer etc. The planet is dying and we keep on ramping up the consumerism!

Children
  • in reply to McFrost

    I agree with much of this, as it’s got much worse since I moved to the U.K. 25 years ago, in contrast to my teens in the 1980’s where I’d grown up in Rural Ireland - one year, I’d attempted to travel back home to Ireland one Christmas Eve on a flight to Dublin on a mad dash from work from my supermarket to the airport - I’d booked a flight in advance, but I ended up getting a flight on standby with only seconds to spare at the gate, only landing in Dublin just after midnight, but with a 4 hour journey still ahead of me and no buses or trains, so I ended up having to ring a family member with a car to come and pick me up at Dublin Airport - the whole experience was so stressful that I never attempted it again, as most supermarkets don’t allow extra time off from November through to Christmas Eve, even for those travelling long distances for Christmas