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Christmas!

ChrisRuthPeggy

How does anyone cope with Christmas and New Year social expectations?  Although I have very few friends, there's the obligation to buy presents which seems to have become swapping boxes of chocolates, chocolate biscuits or bottles of something.  Not forgetting the 'unwanted/unneeded' gifts.  Christmas cards to people you don't 'know'.

Fortunately (or not) we don't have any extended family who we feel obliged to invite for Christmas dinner - just as well as cooking is just not my thing!!

Now, I face a dilemma - hubs is a social animal which goes against the grain of us AuDHD'ers.  Another, sort of, fortunate thing is that we have a 'holiday lodge' on an Isle of Wight holiday park, so we leg it down there.  Yes, parties, but somehow the 'friends' we have down there are few and far between, plus they're not neighbours and seldom see them, so when I make a complete idiot of myself it's not as bad as being at home.  I cope by having too many bevvies and spending all my time on the dance floor.  I know they think I'm crazy down there, so being crazy and old kinda lets me get away with it - well that's what I keep trying to tell myself!

What do you do?

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  • around the last week of every October, i really get stressed about firework night (5th Nov). Mainly, because, of the unpredictability of if and when the fireworks will go off. I then go into burnout from then until late January because of the sheer and utter distain i have for Christmas. I absolutely hate Christmas with a passion and is the main reason why i go into burnout around this time. it's because, of all the masking you have to do and for me, the main trigger is all the sensory stuff, wether that be, the feel of the tinsle, the sound of unwrapping the presents, it just gets to much for me.  I also have more meltdowns to because of it 

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  • around the last week of every October, i really get stressed about firework night (5th Nov). Mainly, because, of the unpredictability of if and when the fireworks will go off. I then go into burnout from then until late January because of the sheer and utter distain i have for Christmas. I absolutely hate Christmas with a passion and is the main reason why i go into burnout around this time. it's because, of all the masking you have to do and for me, the main trigger is all the sensory stuff, wether that be, the feel of the tinsle, the sound of unwrapping the presents, it just gets to much for me.  I also have more meltdowns to because of it 

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  • in reply to James19932024

    Hey, this thread is so great and I am gaining so much from it.  I very much hope that what people have said gives you some support and coping strategies.  Somewhere, I think, in this thread, I have mentioned that joke that my brother told me coming up to firework time: "a friend of his has a dog who spooks out with fireworks.  So much so that his dog went into panic mode and knocked down the Christmas Tree".  Where are we when Halloween starts in September and Christmas in June??

    Yeh, sensory stuff is a problem.  Perhaps experiment with textures, different styles of music - over time, you may find something comforting?  My heart goes out to you - draw on support; this site is giving me so much.

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